Pregnant Scared & Running Away - Al-Anon Family Group

abell · Member

Pregnant Scared & Running Away

grateful2be · ~*Service Worker*~

Abell: First I want to say congratulations! A new baby is a wonderful gift. I don't know if your AH is abusive, too? The fact that you say you're going to be hiding in a secret place before you stay with your family makes me think perhaps he is? If so, I'm glad you are seeing your way clear to doing the next right thing for you and for the baby. I'm also glad you attend Al-Anon and plan on finding meetings as soon as you get home with your family. Keep coming back.

el-cee · ~*Service Worker*~

Sounds to me like you are firmly in reality and making the right moves for you and your baby, alanon is a blessing and if you keep at it, you and your baby wont be dragged down too far into the darkness of alcoholism.x

ann margaret · Newbie

Hi, Abell. I commend you for being brave and being aware that your safety and your babies welfare is the first and most important. I do understand that this first step in detaching yourself from the father of your child is going to be a challenge and you are coping with it by using the tools we learn from Al-Anon which is self care. Please. Allow yourself to cry and feel your feelings because its a good way of exhaling from within...you are worth it!

Cathyinaz · ~*Service Worker*~

((((( Abell )))))

Just like the A that can get help if they seek it out you too have help out there. With family and all the services our communities in this great US you can find help for you and your unborn child. Seek it out because that's what its there for until your back up on your feet again. Stay close to Al-anon and your HP and pray for the courage to move forward for a happier and better life.

KennyFenderjazz · ~*Service Worker*~

Hi Abell

The women here never cease to amaze me! The strength and courage it takes to go do something like this, rather than ride it out is incredible, very admirable. I am a person who just rides it out from way back, that is one of the behaviors I am trying to change for sure.

Once you end up back with family of origin, definitely take up Al Anon. I have found out that Al Anon helps greatly with non-alcoholic co-dependency issues, I have many of them with my family of origin as well, and my relationships with folks in my FOO are improving.

I hope you can get a sponsor when you get there. It sounds like you are running because of fear. Sometimes you have to run because of fear, and that is probably what is going on with you, but once you get settled in hopefully you can let the cortisol stress hormone wind down some and really process this event with a sponsor and your home group.

In the meantime, keep us up to date and we will keep up the encouragement!

Kenny

-- Edited by KennyFenderjazz on Friday 2nd of May 2014 08:47:24 AM

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Prayers and positive thoughts for you and your baby

Breakingfree · ~*Service Worker*~

I never thought I could make it on my own with a baby and a 10 year old, but with HP steering me I made it day by day and with al-anon I grew stronger and healthier day by day. I am glad you are here and on your way down the road of your al-anon recovery journey! This is an exciting time and I pray you and the baby are healthy, sending you love and support!

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

You are very wise. I remember that fear. Also want you to know lots is hormones.

Never the less what an adventure! WE can choose how we want our life to be. I picture how i was this little long haired pretty hippie girl with a baby in a front pack and one walking beside me. I used to walk or ride my bike everywere. Raini in child seat Mac in my front pack. I didn't have money, but we had a tiny little home. I volunteered at a food coop, had fun earthy friends.

I nursed both of my babies and it was not popular then, just had started to me. what kind of life do you want? Its ok to go on assistance at first. they will help you transition, maybe go take a few classes later, babysitting on campus? Or maybe live with someone have a job or even one where you have baby with you. there are so many options.

I am excited for you, you are young and have this open road in front of you. You will know how to express to your family what you need from them, and what you will decide for yourself.

ONE day at a time! that means look at what you have to do that day, do it then dance! I mean it. I even do it now. today I worked outside a little, payed the two bills, messed with the animals. now I am resting and there is nothing more I can do today as it is saturday.

I invite you to try to change those negative things in your head. things are ok, things will be ok! You will make sure of that! You have us here too! I mean that. you are not alone! hugs, keep coming please, I want to hear all about how things go!

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