The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
If you would like tell us what your story is and the process starts. This board is for all of us that has a problem with alcoholism. I came here a little over a years ago and my life is changing every single day. I have learned to let go of my A and started taking care of me. With the help of Al-anon my life is so so much better.
My AS is now facing prison for his choices but I can't truly say I'm not worried about it. I love him dearly and will support him in recovery but until then I will turn of life around where he will drink of not.
You are in the right place my friend, you are not alone so keep coming back and experience all the ESH ( Experience, Strength and Hope ) here. Some of the best people on God's green earth.
(((( hugs ))))
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Lord, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth
Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your silence.
I've been with my honey for 25 years. He was sober for the first 17 years. When he married me I had three kids, he's an only child. I'm not sure why his drinking began however his dad died 5 years ago he told people he never had to work again and hasn't. He originally was a displaced worker. Went to school I'm not sure if he finished or not. He shakes so bad until he drinks. Three weeks ago he had a seziure thank goodness I wad home. Still can't get that image out of my head. He was transported told it was alcohol related but denies it. Went to his doctor was told th e same thing and that in patient would be best. Nah he's got this....sober for a week now just as sneaky. Thinks drinking airplane bottles is ok because it's not the 5th a day he was drinking straight. I don't know what to do. I love h I m
Hi Mama, welcome to Miracles In Progress. Notice the "In Progress" part. We all started somewhere. We all would encourage you to find an Al Anon face to face meeting where you can meet lots of other people who have had very similar experiences.
Keep posting here, and we also have online meetings twice a day, you can se the schedule on the chat room page.
We all learn that we didn't cause someone's drinking, can't control it, and won't cure it. That is called the 3 Cs of Alanon. Acceptance of that is a start of a long journey to rediscover yourself and be able to figure out the answers to the questions you just asked.
I go and just listen and absorb. You are not required to speak, you are
Not in the meeting for your ah but yourself. He might be your qualifier
But this meeting is about you not him. It is a hard concept to get around
When you are hurting. My husband has been dry for 28 years but he is still
And alcoholic. He has been attending aa the last two years. Psychical
Sobriety is only step one, next is emotional sobriety then spiritual sobriety.
That is his journey to follow. Ours is alanon and healing our own selves
And finding happiness.
Some of our members don't go to Al-Anon face to face meetings for awhile. They build up confidence in themselves and in us and in the program here and during on-line meetings that are hosted here twice a day. It's okay to be where you are and to just come here for awhile. You might discover - as others have - that you really want to go to a meeting and then when you do - you are so grateful that you did. Keep coming back!
I know that condition myself...when I got into the program I couldn't even spell alcohol or alcoholism. I didn't know about the disease and didn't know that I didn't know. I came to think that back then I was as dumb as a stick and then learned to be lighter with myself. Like DavidG says we mostly start at the beginning. We admitted we were powerless over alcohol and that our lives had become unmanageable. We all start at step 1 and then progress. Al-Anon like AA is a 12 step program...you can read the steps at the face page of MIP. Sounds like your shyness maybe caused by fear. Fear was my greatest emotional character defect and still in the program I came to understand it and then work thru it and then get over it. Most of my fears were not based on reality...just my head giving me false messages which appeared real. Now that I know that I'm free of it and what a miracle that is. Alcoholics restarting drinking is called relapse and that is a part of the disease. Alcoholism is never cured it is just arrested by total abstinence and if they were to relapse usually is is much worse than when they started. The disease tries to do "catch up" on all of the drinks he never had when he was stopped. The shaking means that it has a hold of his neurological system (I went to college on this disease) and has the power to depress the system to where it almost will not shake or jitter under the influence. With some alcohol will not depress the shakes. Alcohol is a chemical depressant mind, body (neurological included), spirit (motivations) and emotions (feelings). It is synergistic and doesn't have to go to the stomach to start its influence. I can and will go from tongue to Central Nervous System in a second passing thru the blood brain barrier easily. It is a solvent also and breaks down cellular structure and of course there is no organs in the body that it doesn't affect. It is a mind and mood altering chemical which if not arrested by total abstinence can and will result in insanity and even death. That more the technical side of things and the only requirement for Al-Anon membership is that we are affected by someone else's drinking. Since I was born and raised in the disease I'm fully qualified to sit with the fellowship and MIP and listen learn and then practice what I'm taught. Keep coming back. This family will support you at all times. (((((hugs)))))
Mama you can hang here for as long as you want, we are happy to have you! We all understand the hesitance to go to a face to face meeting. We also know the joy that comes once you finally attend and fInd a home group. I don't go to as many f2f meetings as I would like due to time constraints so I am as close to some people here as I am with folks in my home group.
When I attended my first Alanon meeting, I went into the church and hesitated at the door and listened. I suddenly thought I heard my son's Boy Scout scoutmaster in there! I freaked and went back to the parking lot and sat in my car and gathered my thoughts. Then I realize that, if he was in there, he had a similar problem to mine and might actually be able to help me. I gathered my courage and wits back up and went back in. The scoutmaster wasn't there, but a couple of friendly people greeted me and during share time they all listened sympathetically to my problems. It was a great experience and I am glad I went!
I'm so new at all this I don't even know where to start
Most of start at the beginning... 