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Raven Juniper


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That's all I can stands, cause I can't stands no more!! Sorry if I mangled it, it's something to that effect. I wish Popeye could fix this, lol..

I have to let my A go. I realize it now, I realized it then, but I was so far up Denial.... Now I'm trying to figure how to go about it, get myself ready for the aftershocks.

I just don't know how to say it, how to broach the subject with him, it's right there on the tip of my tongue...

I know that I have to make it about me, because I understand that confronting the A just results in all calamity. I know that I don't need to explain that THIS is why...he already knows...

How to say what I mean without saying it mean?



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PP


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I simply say "this is not working for me".  It is hard, but it can be done......



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This is about where I find myself too, the scariest thing for me is fear of the aftershocks and taking the leap of faith that wherever I land will be the right place because HP put me there. I have been praying a lot. Hugs, its scary even though its the next right thing.

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Cathyinaz


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I yam what I yam and tha's all what I yam." -- Popeye the Sailor

After you say what you say you need to take that kitty ( avatar ) and put her in a better position so she can be free and happilly at peace.

((( hugs ))))

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Sounds like there is nothing left to say, so say nothing.

Actions work when trying to get your point across.

Hugs, Bettina

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Raven Juniper


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Thanks everyone, I feel sad but peaceful. Going to send up a prayer to my HP before I go to sleep for guidance. I had a conversation with HP on the long drive home from work tonight, yelled and ranted, told HP everything I was feeling (even though it's no secret), and feel much better now:)

You all are so right...and Cathy, I knooowww...this poor kitty baby, I wish she was mine so I could spoil her...

(((Hugs)))

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milkwood


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(((Hugs)))
Thinking of you!

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bud


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I understand your crossroad and have been there before. I was told to be brief and be gone. (really like the Pop-eye quote!) It helps me to first have a plan and then say that this is how you feel and what the next step is. Speaking with kindness from my heart never fails me. I'm glad you have serenity to sustain you as you begin a positive path.
((((hugs))))

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You have lots and lots of help and lots and lots of tools...I had them and I use them still.  Sometimes I ponder the Serenity Prayer and take it in 3 sections...inventorying my situation with each section.   God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change (what can't I change...made a list)...the courage to change the things I can (I have tools to help me and experiences which have worked for others and I have a Higher Power who has always been with me and need to apply some moxie to what I need to change) and the wisdom to know the difference.  I am surrounded with wisdom...tons and tons of it.  It doesn't only have to be my own though it also could be that and when I am done I see the picture clearly; what it's been like, what I know now and what I want it to be as best I can.  ((((hugs)))) smile



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