The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
We started the process of an intervention for my AM. My brother, dad and I all wrote letters, my sister has yet to finish her letter because she thinks my AM is still angry over a fight they had a few weeks ago.. That is maddening because I can't control my sister's actions...just like I can't control whether she tells her husband about my AM's drinking..I don't want to see her hurt (mentally, emotionally)..
Another thing..I found a psychologist who specalizes in mental health issues etc. But because of school..I have no free time. I'm taking Anatomy and Physiology 2 which takes up all my free time. This leaves me frustrated with myself because I haven't made that initial appointment..I'm nervous.. I've seen psychologists in years past..it's taking the first step that I'm apprehensive about..
Do ya'll have any advice for me? Thanks for listening.
I know that my Dr. does phone consultations, maybe you can inquire about that. I have always gone in person, matter of fact he says that it is important to MAKE FREE TIME........that is the main problem with co-dependency....that we don't make time for ourselves.
I had never EVER gone to a psychologist and never wanted to go but it has really helped me. I had no clue how to handle what was going on and genuinely thought I was going crazy.
Best Wishes...Keep calm and carry on!!!
__________________
You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself in any direction you choose. (Dr. Suess)
Phoenix for me the solution lays in the practice (practice, practice) of the program especially in a situation like this the slogans. For me this would come under the title of poor personal management and just personal management which keeps me working step one. The intervention is a plan without a clear idea of the consequences. You can only do "your" part as best you can with what you have. My sponsor told me and then taught me to "get rid of all of your expectations" and more so that I wouldn't always be setting myself up for failure. Priorities, keep it simple, follow thru practice acceptance with it all. For me this is Higher Power atmosphere.
Sometimes, when things aren't working the way I'd like them to, I've had to let go and let God handle what I can't seem to bring about on my own or with others.
Actually, the intervention is an expectation in your mind that it will really help your mom. Unless you have some consequences that "get her attention" it won't help at all. Just writing letters to her and talking to her is something she will use to drink more to assuage her guilt about what you wrote. Unless there is a consequence, a line in the sand, that if she crosses it you will 'x, y, and z' and she really cares that 'x, y, and z' not happen and she believes you will keep your end of the bargain..... she will listen, nod her head, and ignore you. Most interventions don't work because there is not a consequence that they care about more than their love of the addiction.
In the meantime, you have school. Do well. That is YOUR ticket to YOUR future. Take care of yourself!!!!!
