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Lyne


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It's a rough week for me due to having a crisis with needing helpers for my 90 yr old mom.  So guess what I found myself doing this morning?  Obsessing about my A.  Like where the hell did that come from?  I don't have enought stress already?  I'm already having anxiety everyday.  I'm getting the run around from a bunch of different agencies.  So why would my  mind go back to a horrible topic?  I started thinking about the non-progress my A is doing inspite of going to two meetings a week.  I started thinking about the talk I would have with her during the weekend.  And then thank God my alanon brain kicked in and said, NO!  STOP IT!  I've had hundreds of talks over 8-9 years and they all amounted to NOTHING!  I said the Serenity Prayer several times, I recited the three C's, and I was able to jump off that obsession train and save myself from more misery.  Thanks to all of you!  Lyne



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Jill


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Lyne, your progress inspires me. Really good use of your tools. I'm so glad to hear you jumped.


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hotrod


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Good Work Lyne  

Keeping the focus on ourselves and examining our motives in the moment really works



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Lyne:

I have been thinking about why we go back to 'the old familiar' at times.  Thank you for your post - your progress is inspiring

:)

Mary



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Lyne, I have this problem also and it never seems to make any sense. Like you I reflect back and conclude that none of the previous conversations or my obsessing about her have ever helped, why would I think it's going to help this time?

I normally get out a journal that I have been keeping ever since she started this recovery process and reviewing all that I have written usually brings me back into focus.

Good luck.

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pinkchip


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Sounds like good work. Also, why expect change off 2 meetings a week? Newcomers need 5 to 7 a week for a good year or two. Your change matters more anyhow.

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Jerry F


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((((Lyne))))...this is normal in recovery and gets less and less in reaction with practice of the program.  Our program actually is an alternative behavior program...mind, body, spirit and emotions...We learn new ways of living our lives and repeatedly practice new ways rather than "relapse" into old non-working thoughts, feelings and behaviors.    Practice, Practice, Practice and when the thoughts come later on they will be fleeting and replaced by program sooner.   Good Job...you're growing.  ((((hugs)))) smile



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Truth


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I finally stopped obsessing today because I trusted my gut. I find when I want it to go away I just take the action my gut is telling me.

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SerenityRUS


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Good for YOU! I find when I slip into old thinking if I give myself a moment I can see immediately that I'm deflecting from some bigger issue really going on .. way to go and do what you needed to do to take care of you!!

Hugs S :)

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