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Well, my AH is out of rehab, has his phone back and is in a 1/2 way house. I started off asking how he was and it went bad. So now we talk about the weather and the little stray cat he befriended near his house. It is very weird to have to try so hard to stay out of his business after being so wrapped up in it for the past 26 years. I have hope that we can re-connect and move on.
He sounds like the "old" him I knew before alcohol invaded and took over. I think I will bring up old times and the good times we had, that may work and stay in the present. The future is too unknown and an area I don't want to get into.
I remind him that we have to move ahead slowly One Day at a Time............he seems to get it.
I still fear a relapse because I know what that means to me, but I am working on that ---- that's all I can do.
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You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself in any direction you choose. (Dr. Suess)
It is all you can do. He going to a 1/2 way house might give him a advantage after rehab. My son was drinking 4 days after getting out. It is hard to find something to say without going into the problems. The problems you both already know and have argued, begged and cried over. Just stay on your side of the street the best you can and continue to take care of you. When you talk keep it simple. You might have to go into details about your days but make it happy.
Prayers for you AH that he will continue to do the next right thing.
((( hugs )))
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Lord, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth
Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your silence.
