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Hoot Nanny


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I am sorry to say but I am tired of my mom using me. She once again, only is in it for herself. I noticed that the last few days she hasn't called or anything but today she needs me to get into her email so she can once again, get her tickets for her trip down to see my family. Again, basically she is kicking me to the curb. I am so tired of being used. I thought there was hope for awhile after she got home from the hospital. But, not to my surprise she is off running again. You see also that she is moving back down w/ my family so they can take care of her. She is alienating me until she needs me. She said before that I was pushing her out of my life. I will not unless she forces me to. I don't want to get a resentment before she leaves. Anyhow, it is now Spring & I think she intends to go down there soon. I guess she is ready to move on. If she sells her house, for sure off she goes.

She has done almost nothing about the fact that she almost had my husband arrested back in July. I am sure she feels bad but does she really care about him, anyone but herself?I am tired. I am anxious. I have no positive feelings for her right now.

That is all for now. My anger button has been pushed too many times!

Kathleen



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Debilyn


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Sooo disengage the anger button? The word NO.

It sounds like many  people just wanting their mums love. But hitting brick walls.

Suffice it to say I am so glad you are here, and cont. to work your program. How are you feeling??? hugs,debilyn. (your back)

 



-- Edited by Debilyn on Saturday 22nd of March 2014 07:10:01 PM

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I reserve the right to be wrong, but from the tune in which I am reading your words,... a break from mom might be just what the doctor (HP) ordered. Take a breath, inhale and exhale, relax.  Send her on her way with good wishes and treat yourself to some ice cream and cake.... you are on vacation too now!  :)

John



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