Alright so I blew up at him! - Al-Anon Family Group

Breakingfree · ~*Service Worker*~

Alright so I blew up at him!

PP · ~*Service Worker*~

You are doing the best you can with the hurts and losses. Take good care.

Beatrice · Senior Member

Proving that you are only human....

And trying to accomplish a goal you have for yourself.

You are aware of what happened and that's most important!

hugs, Bettina

Jill · ~*Service Worker*~

Oh I know that one well. One time when I was living with active alcoholism (the still drinking and not in program kind), we were getting ready for a week long visit from part of my family. He drank the night we were getting ready. I knew he couldn't go to the airport. I SPUN OUT.

After all too long of me venting, it hit me. What if there are Martians? They would look at me screaming, see him "peaceful", and know which of us is nuts.

I took myself to more than my one meeting a week after that awakening. Ugh - the hold my disease has on me. Attending and participating in meetings and working the steps got me back to the human race. I don't have to fear the opinion of life on other planets.

Cathyinaz · ~*Service Worker*~

I'm so sorry your not getting the help you need. I have to be honest here if I had children to deal with along with my little problems I would be going off the deep end I think. I totally understand your anger and the overwhelmed feelings your having.

I'm praying things will calm down and you will be in a more manageable situation soon.

((( hugs )))

pinkchip · ~*Service Worker*~

Well...it is insanity for an alcoholic to have binge times and what will usually happen is he's going keep drinking it and hiding it when your daughter is there. Alcoholics can't just stop when they have to be responsible. So...The fact that he's drinking like this when he don't have her suggests to me he's also drinking when he does have her. Yeah..His program is his business, but there is no A A program that says drink as long as you don't have your kids to take care of. That is a lack of a program and it would bother me too. So admire you detachment and boundaries, but I don't think your concerns are off the mark. Screaming matches are futile but don't invalidate you concerns or buy into that an alcoholic has suddenly learned to drink responsibly.

el-cee · ~*Service Worker*~

Dont be too hard on yourself, your under pressure. I wouldnt buy into the whole idea of he handled it better, you might too with an opt out like drink, I mean my ex would do this too, be all calm in the chaos caused by the disease but he was usually numb to it anyway. Bf, how do you know your kids are safe with him while hes drinking? The worry and stress cant be good for you.

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

dumb question, isn't there another teacher who teaches the grade your little one is in? Have you looked into like a Christian school or other alternatives? Many have scholarships for kids who have single parents. plus your going to school may give you more advantages for her too.

Also, though it seems like the admin was in on that crappy teachers meetings, have you gone to talk to the principal of the school she was at. It is NEVER the childs fault especially at her age.

That teacher needs to get it together. If I were you I would go to the principal, demand a proper education for your child. Then say the word, "attorney." Believe me these days that is the magic word.

If that teacher cannot give your child a proper education, suited for her,then ask for a tutor.

Every child when they go to school is counted, if a district loses ONE kid they lose money every day they are not at school. This is every state in the usa.

There are NO bad kids,just very bad teachers who do not know how to look into the heart of a student. They are suppose to know how to teach a child how they understand, and not get emotional or complain about that child.

you are working so hard. Its ok take a breath. Having A's bolony is not helping. I invite you to ask yourself, what good is he doing???

sending you hope and love

SerenityRUS · ~*Service Worker*~

Hugs sending yOu love and support! Hang in there ..

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Prayers and positive thoughts Breking free. One moment at a time

Breakingfree · ~*Service Worker*~

Thanks Debilyn for the support. I did back before Christmas when things were going bad Sept-Dec meet with teacher and principal. She told me my kindergartner was the problem and would not switch her to one of the other teachers. This is why I let her switch schools. I still have very ill feelings toward this principle and just need not to have to deal with her!

Thanks everyone else I am forgiving myself and remembering to be kind and gentle with myself. I have been in a bad place since failing a class last semester and am just now getting back to a balanced place in my head. I need to be brought down to this place once in awhile to remember I am not God and can't control or do it all. Thanks again everyone for the ESH!

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