I'm in shock .. (it's a good thing) - Al-Anon Family Group

SerenityRUS · ~*Service Worker*~

I'm in shock .. (it's a good thing)

pinkchip · ~*Service Worker*~

Momentous. I remember from before you even split. One time when you thought he caught on to you posting here and made all these apologies for "messing up." You are not the same person. You are amazing.

Breakingfree · ~*Service Worker*~

I remember too all the growth and changes and you are awesome! This has been a very long process for you and I am glad to hear an end is definitely in sight. Sending you much love and support always!

Green Eyes · ~*Service Worker*~

I will be sure to watch for your next update. Sending you hugs and support!

PP · ~*Service Worker*~

You are a great role model for so many biggrin

oldergal · Senior Member

"I am not willing to shift things willy nilly because he can't hold it together". !!!! YAY!

You go girl! By golly I think you got it! :) :)

SerenityRUS · ~*Service Worker*~

Well court was great and I was floored. There are many things that have transpired since Monday. First off I'm an idiot .. I mean that in a very loving way to myself .. lol. Stbax signed the parenting agreement I have NO idea what possessed him. I'm utterly floored. Now I thought he signed the mediators report .. he signed MY atty's offer. I don't think he read it. I'm over the moon. It's everything I wanted .. right down to both my children have the right to decide if they want to stay or even go to visitation. I have sole physical and legal custody he has reasonable visitation. I'm floored. So as of today I no longer have court to deal with .. a couple of interesting things transpired .. I wish I understood better what this means. His arty made it easier for me to go back in and get an OP should the stbax act up. Ok.. why? Honestly if I speculate stbax had a full tantrum at the atty's office. This is the same man 2 weeks ago who said that he wasn't going to pay me alimony. Now he's offering 3 additional years. YES .. I'm fully on alert. Plus willing to pay additional things. Not what I'm asking for however we will see. I'm suppose to get together with my atty and figure out what I want to do about the offer. Ok fine. I have to provide financials and so on. Fine. Like I have anything .. lol. I'm completely baffled. I'm ok with that .. the parenting agreement is beyond huge and the judge signed it. It's set! I'm nervous too. It's ok.Â If stbax actually showed his butt to his arty .. sounds to me like his arty has just said I'm done. Why help me? I was again baffled. Plus now I wonder what new crisis has taken place. Which by the way .. when I was getting THAT feeling over the Nov/Dec time frame guess what .. he had another episode. Floppy chicken at work .. I think he went back to the hospital. I was on point. I knew it was coming. So that was interesting. Now he's blurted out to the kids that he's laid off for 2 months. I don't buy it .. so we will see. Anyway .. bottom line no more court for the EOP his arty assisted me in making sure if I need to go back I can get one without this drama. Again WHY? No clue except he made it clear he's not representing him the next go around. He didn't say that except in wording .. if "I" news to come back it will be easier for me. I was like WOW! Thank you all for being here and supporting me through prayers, encouragement and program words. Yes .. this has been a long journey and the most exciting thing is this small chapter has closed .. the divorce is close .. and the rest of the story has yet to unfold. I'm so grateful to continue on the journey the God of my understanding has planned for the kids and I. Love to you all! Lol .. someday I will talk better program .. mostly I know the steps .. I just can't figure out how to express them. I got shushed by the bailiff today .. lol .. oops! Hugs s :)

Jerry F · ~*Service Worker*~

Sounds really dramatic and in a way that it moves toward your wants and needs. Now its your turn. Move on to ward what you need for you. Happy with you. When stuff like this happens to or for me I go outside look straight up and say "Mahalo"...in English "Thank You" tho I don't think HP needs an interpreter. lol ((((hugs)))) smile

KennyFenderjazz · ~*Service Worker*~

Yay! All that work you have put in, and all this happens! Yay!

grateful2be · ~*Service Worker*~

smile smile smile smile

SerenityRUS · ~*Service Worker*~

His atty may be saying all the right things at this point just to get it done while stbax is laid off. I have to remember nothing happens quickly in the courts. Parenting agreement was sent in October 2013.. we are in March 2014 umm .. not fast at all. So I can drag my feet a bit. He's missed this months transparenting classes .. so even if he wanted it done now .. it's not happening anyway. I am trying to remember to breathe in all of this .. it is a LOT to take in all at once. Even my atty laughed and said do you read anything? I told him right now I'm so over court I know more people there than I do at church .. that is a problem AND I'm not getting paid to be at court. He goes to my church so the irony is not lost on him. So now we wait. I do have to make a decision about what is and is not going to happen in terms of the kids school. We will see. Anyway .. it's all good stuff and I'm grateful this part is done .. I will pause, pray and proceed. Moving forward. It feels very good! ;)

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