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Cathyinaz · ~*Service Worker*~

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grateful2be · ~*Service Worker*~

(((C)))

Rose50 · Senior Member

(((((Cathy)))) I understand. I don't want to know what's going on with my son either. But I miss him so much! I am praying that your son finds his way to recovery. Please pray for mine.

ParisMemories · Senior Member

Dear Cathy I'm keeping you in my prayers. Hugs Paris

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

I have said this many times. When we finally detach, let go and let HP, then maybe a miracle happens and they go into treatment and stay on a programs. So when your A comes to you, the real person not the disease, they will be thankful you were strong enough to not allow the disease to destroy you.

We are not showing them how much we love them by allowing this horrible disease control us, taking away our power.

I am soooo glad you shared this, you are very wise. Hey I know it is horribly hard. As time goes on, you will become not so raw about the situation, you will trust your hp.

shared with you my daughter is broken from her daddy getting killed when he was drunk. She turned on me out of nowhere with insane memories that are not true. I have not seen nor talked to her for 3 years. It kills me Cathy. I know how you feel believe me. I had to give it to hp to stay sane. She was the most delightful girl, still is, but I have no idea what made her leave me.

hugs honey, debilyn

Jen61 · ~*Service Worker*~

Proud of you Cathy. You are doing so good!

lgnutah · Senior Member

turning the phone off...such a little thing but how much it helps! something I have thought about is how (back when I was young) people didnt know every little thing that everyone was doing because you only had one house phone and you certainly didnt call anyone "long distance", so if they lived far awzy you had to write a LETTER for petes sake. anyway, maybe growing up like that made us realize we couldnt expect others to rescue us, we had to take care ofmourselves because if we didnt, no one was coming to do it for us.

bud · ~*Service Worker*~

(((Cathy))) You're not alone. I understand and share your thoughts and also have come to the same conclusion of letting go and letting God. I do know that our children have heard our messages over the years; my daughter is in the process of learning most things the hard way, as it is partly her personality and partly how the disease has affected her. It can become unbearably painful to watch. Often, it's not easy being Mom. Keep on keeping on.

In support.

AngelicH57 · Senior Member

{{{{{{{Cathy}}}}}}}

Breakingfree · ~*Service Worker*~

I have done the same with my exAh as much as I love him, I have said and done everything I could to make him sober and get help to no avail. God has him and he knows there is help when and if he is ever ready. It is hard for me and I can not imagine if it were my own child, but I do love to hear you working such a great program and wish my exAH's Mother would al-anon and stop enabling him the way you do. You give me hope. Sending you love and support on your journey!

Katytexasmom · Veteran Member

It's so hard to do! But I know you are right. I struggle with letting go of my sweet young sons hand.....
Thank you for sharing. It's very helpful.
Keep up the good work.

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