Gay or Lesbian's out there? - Al-Anon Family Group

jodiee34 · Newbie

Gay or Lesbian's out there?

grateful2be · ~*Service Worker*~

Hello, jodiee: Welcome to MIP. Our family is made up of men and women who have or do live with an active A. We are learning how the disease affects us and how to take good care of ourselves whether or not the A stops using. We recommend attending Al-Anon meetings, reading conference approved literature, finding a good sponsor and learning how to apply the Al-Anon program to our lives. We have on-line meetings twice a day in our chatroom. Our message board family are safe people who learn we are a fellowship of equals. We help each other find new solutions to old problems, work to share our experiences/strength/hope without giving advice, and support each other on the road of recovery for ourselves.
Glad to see you here. Please keep coming back.

Cathyinaz · ~*Service Worker*~

Welcome jodiee34

There are many here but it doesn't matter if your gay or straight, we help each other no matter who, what, where or what color we are. I'm so glad you came and just want to welcome you to the family.

Keep coming back because you are not alone my friend

((( hugs )))

pinkchip · ~*Service Worker*~

I am a gay man. I was in a 7 year relationship with another alcoholic...drank with him and just about surpassed him in my own alcoholism. I ended things to have a shot at my own sobriety and because we were both getting worse and worse together. Welcome. There are GLBT Alanon meetings in some areas but this is a very welcoming community.

Jill · ~*Service Worker*~

Jodiee, welcome to Miracles in Progress.
Yes, there are gays and lesbians here. We don't all have that in common, but we are all free to talk about our families and friends as we seek a better life now that someone else's alcoholism has affected our lives. To me, that's what we really have in common. The work, support and experience of taking our lives back.

Pinkchip mentions GLBT meetings in some areas. When I began attending Al-Anon meetings, I attended a GLBT meeting for about 2 or 3 years. I did this because I was terrified anyone would find out - even though I had just moved several time-zones from everyone I knew! The welcome and acceptance I received I will always treasure. I didn't "come out" (as straight) at my meeting for a long time. Of course nobody cared, and they had probably already sussed me out. Nevermind. The important thing was it's Al-Anon and the miracles are at any meetings.

Congratulations on your marriage.

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

I too am so glad you were able to marry! Many people I love very much are all different in their natural desires. Your wife is your wife like any other one. No matter what you share, it will be taken with love and understanding.

I have been here many, many years and am sooooo happy to say we are family and love new ones!! We need you too, everyone has things to share and we learn.

Pink chip is a wonderful guy who shares so many important things. Many here are double winners, where they are working hard at recovery and also using Al Anon skills.

I hope you keep coming back, welcome! debilyn

MorningGlory · Veteran Member

Congratulations Jodiee34 on your marriage!

Wanted to welcome you too. This is an amazing place filled with the most loving and caring people you will ever meet.
Hang around a bit and you will read something that hits home and you will know, without a doubt, that you are in the right place.

bud · ~*Service Worker*~

Hi Jodiee - Congratulations on your wedding! Welcome to MIP- you're in the right place! Alcoholism is a progressive and deadly disease that affects everyone it contacts. Left untreated, it results in insanity and/ or death. The only way to stop it is abstinence and a 12 step program to help rebalance the distorted mindset.

Living with someone with this becomes much too much for us to handle alone and distorts our perceptions and reactions as well. It may manifest slightly differently, but there seems to be more commonalities than there are differences.

Alanon is a program that provides the support, knowledge, skills, and tools to help best cope when confronted with the crazy-making of alcohol and addiction. I'm glad you found MIP and look forward to chatting and sharing experiences.

Keep coming back- it works if you work it- and you're worth it!!!

In support.

John · ~*Service Worker*~

I would think that sexual preference or orientation is an outside issue. There are support groups for that sort of stuff as well I am sure, but here, we come together because we love a friend or family member whose drinking is adversely effecting our lives. To me that question is like me looking for other BMW enthusiast here. It's not what we are here about. Sorry. You are welcome to be here if a friend or family members drinking is bothering you. We don't much care for information regarding their or your sexual preference, it has nothing to do with Al-Anon. Any more than BMW's do.

John

The material presented here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method to exchange information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal level.