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I've attended 2 Al-Anon meetings and I finally feel I've made the right decission.
My situation isn't easy. My ex-partner and I split up 2 weeks ago, he's an alcoholic. He admitted cheating and I asked him to leave our home. It's very tough and I'm very confused. I miss him, I love him, he was the love of my life. But our relationship is and was destructive, mainly because of his alcohol abuse. He did go to the AA, but started to drink again within 2 weeks. He cheated, he's verbally and physically abusive, he's lying and cheating.
I hope to find some answers here, help and the courage to continue my life without him.
Eliza
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Welcome! I'm glad to hear from another new person on this board!
Yes I understand the confusion and hurt that goes with this disease,but I learned in the rooms of alanon I have to keep the focus on me an not on anyone else.
My A was going to AA for a year an not staying sober an I continued to get sicker an sicker. When he got sober the last time I had finally hit my bottom,an so started my journey in alanon. What a beautiful journey it has been!!
I have learned to not regret the past nor do I wish to shut the door on it.
If these things wouldn't have happened I would never have found this wonderful program an all you people that saved my life!
Keep coming back an I strongly encourage you to keep going to f2f mtgs an coming to this board.
I just recently found this board but have been going to f2f mtgs for a few yrs. I've benefitted greatly from each of these.
Hope to hear more from you!
((Hugs))
i remember when I was more comfortable talking with other "newbies". I felt they knew better what I was going through because they were currently going through it. But now that I have been around for five years I realize that no one "outgrows" feeling new.
Welcome to MIP! There are lots of good resources here, and lots of caring people. Note also the chat room, whitch has meetings twice a day. There is a link in the upper-left corner of this page.
It's very a very difficult and confusing time. I will write my story later. It's a way of keeping my sanity to talk and write. Unfortunately there won't be a meeting next week, so I really need to talk every now and then.
I'm not a native English speaker, I hope you can all bare my poor grammar :)
My ex-partner is stalking me, writing terrible text messages 24/7.
I've been to my GP for psychological help to deal with the years of cheating, abuse and his alcoholism. I can't do it on my own anymore, I was a strong and independent woman and all that's left over is a small, skinny little bird. I can't eat or sleep.
I feel blessed to have my Al Anon group.
so glad you found us, this site has been an amazing tool for my recovery and healing. I love my meetings and go to a couple a week, I need the hugs. However this site is here 24/7 and the people have lots of experience strength and hope to share.
When I have been in the most pain I have shared on here and it helped me to heal.
In al anon they told me this too shall pass.
It never felt like the pain would ease but it did one day at a time and today my smile is back.
I would like to add my welcome to the Miracles in Progress recovery site. I am glad that you have found us and are attending Al-Anon face-to-face meetings. Living with the disease of alcoholism is a challenge that we should not face alone. Our thinking becomes distorted by trying to force solutions and we develop negative coping tools in the process.
I so understand the loss of self that you describe and would just like to say that there is hope. Attending Al-Anon, using the tools, living one day at a time, focus on yourself and trusting program and HP will lead you out of the confusion and into serenity, courage and wisdom.
If you are being stalked and harassed by your ex this is a form of abuse that you do not need to endure. I'm not sure if you are living in the US but if so here are some important numbers that could help you :
Battered Womens Justice Project: 1-800-903-0111. National Organization for Victims Assistance: 1-800-879-6682 National Resource Center for Domestic Violence: 1-800-537-2238 US Domestic Violence Hotline/ General Information: 1-800-799-7233
If you are in another country, I am sure there is such help available and you would need to contact social services for information. Your Al-Anon group may also have such numbers.
Please keep coming back here as you are not alone and there is hope
Hello. Welcome to MIP. I'm sorry you are going through such difficult and maybe scary times? Many of us have had some of the experiences you have shared here. You are not alone. Keep coming back.
No I live in Europe, but haven't found an online site and I desperately need to stay in touch with other partners/relatives.
I'm being stalked (text messages, about 1 every 10 minutes = watching me in his car = his friends contact me = he calls me from 3 different phones during the night). I know I should contact the police, but I'm too afraid.
I'm reading all I can get my hands on by Al-Anon. My ex partner never allowed me to go to meetings myself, but I'm glad I went there the day I asked him to leave our home.
