Praying !! - Al-Anon Family Group

Gaby · Senior Member

Praying !!

Cathyinaz · ~*Service Worker*~

(((( Gaby ))))

You need to read the literature, books and anything else you can get you hands on. It's helps so much to put it into perspective what you are feeling and going through. I know the feel all to well but have been able to overcome it over time.

Please come here daily and post if you have to....you are not alone and others will help you through it with ESH.

I works if you work it so please work it my friend.

He needs to truly hit his bottom and when that happens you will be healthy enough to be there for him.

You and your son will be in my prayers tonight and a candle will be lit for him.

Gaby · Senior Member

Thank you Cathy.. I too pray for you and your son. I know I'm not alone but at times that's what it feels like. He is staying with a family member and tried to pull his crap there too, his uncle has a great heart and knows this disease all to well. But if my sin continues he will again be out on the streets. I know I am not god and I need to solely work on me. I say the serenity prayer ever day and listen to KLove and read as much as I can to help me!!! I know my son has to do for him, but I have back slides all the time and then here I go again. I wish I could be one of those individuals I have met that say my child does it to himself and they don't let there disease effect them at all. Thank you for your prayers much needed. God bless..

Cathyinaz · ~*Service Worker*~

I totally understand where your coming from. I did it for 5 years before I got help. I still have those feelings to help everyday but I stop and think about my motives before I step in. 99 percent of the time I don't need to step in and it passes with time. I would suggest you come here before you make any decisions to go to your son and get the ESH.....it just might help you make better decisions on what is good for you.

Also we do stress Al-anon meetings but if you can't or won't right now I understand so keep coming back.

For me it hurts and hurts really bad but I still hurt when taking care of my son ( only temporary gratification ) . So whats the difference, I can't stop him from doing what he wants so I made my decision to stop the enabling and let the cards fall where they may. Maybe just maybe it will give him the only option to seek help because mom will not pick up the pieces and my life ( son ) has become unmanageable.

((( hugs ))))

bud · ~*Service Worker*~

Sending lots of prayers Gaby. Keep doing the next right thing and keep taking good care of yourself. When I feel low like you are I do my best to get busy even if I don't feel like it- eventually there's some traction to pull me away from the funk. Keep us posted how you're doing. ((G))

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

Dear lady I wake up and am concerned over mine who goes out in the wilderness to fish! We always feel like a huge part of us is out there in that hard world. I pray for you to get involved in something you love and trust your hp to watch over him.

love!

Gaby · Senior Member

Thank you for all your support. I know I'm not alone. I have a love kind comforting family here. I have mixed feelings towards my son that I feel guilty having. Such as anger hurt and I have to let those feeling go. I love my son he has to know that. I've done all I can do for him. As we all have for our A's. Even when there the ones that ask for the help. I just need to pray that god gives me that strenghth to stay focus on me and my daughter that so badly needs me.

barbaralewis · Veteran Member

((hugs)) i understand how you feel so well. prayers for you & your son

el-cee · ~*Service Worker*~

Gaby, the 'Just for Today' card has such valuable suggestions that are simple and clear and help give you a focus for your day. When I read it, think about it and remember it I have a good, calm day. I know what your going through, your not alone. We are Mothers but we don't have to let their choices destroy us.x

ilovedogs · ~*Service Worker*~

Praying right there with you, Gaby! Hugs and prayers to you today!

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