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I went to my first meeting today and it was very helpful. I finally cried about this mess and it felt good. The group I met with were so warm and welcoming. We talked about realizing we are powerless over this disease. I know I can't do anything about it, it just felt good to say that to people face to face.
I told my boyfriend's daughter about the meeting and what it was like and how it felt good to finally cry. I mentioned again that she might benefit from an alateen meeting and that I would be happy to take her there. She said ok :). Her only free day is Sunday so I'm going to look online tonight to find one for her. She said that she would babysit for me if I needed to go to a meeting at night once my new job starts.
She goes home after track practice to shower and get her clothes for the next day and then I pick her up and take her to my place. She had asked her dad last week if he was going to stop and he told her to give him until Sunday. I warned her to not get her hopes up. Today she asked him again and he said that he didn't know. I am so sad for her, she said she can't wait for it to get back to normal. That when he is sober her life is great and he takes good care of her. I really think that the meetings will help her as today's helped me.
Good News Snowflake!!!
I am so pleased that you connected and found the support that is so important to your well being. It is fantastic that your boyfriend's daughter is willing to attend alateen. She will find it very helpful as well.
Good follow thru Snowflake..."the courage to change the things we can" is the part of the Serenity Prayer you acted on. Awesome. If you cannot find an Alateen meeting for the daughter remember that Alateen is part of the Al-Anon Family Groups and she is legal to sit in on them. Good job!! ((((hugs))))
I'm so glad you reached out, attended a meeting and came away with the wonderful warmth of connection. Alanon works and you and your daughter are so worth it!!!
you are no longer alone the support from al anon is amazing,
I am so glad you are supporting the young girl to access alateen. this disease is a family illness we all get sick they say the drinker gets the disease and we get the spots.
but if one person in the family gets better(in recovery) this ripples too just like the illness. only other children of drinkers truly understand how she feels.
Good Luck Snowflake! I also went to my first meeting this week. It took me a long time to get here - but as they say, "when the student is ready, the teacher will come".
I felt hope and warmth in the group I attended as well - it was inspiring.
