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Cathyinaz · ~*Service Worker*~

Texting

Rose50 · Senior Member

It's all right not to engage, Cathy. Sometimes it's better not to know.

((hugs)))

oldergal · Senior Member

That's right Cathy, you don't have to respond. He has his Dad there and he can also call the police. He is over 21 he can figure it out himself. Don't second guess yourself. Besides you are busy getting your life together..... Your good. og

Cathyinaz · ~*Service Worker*~

Thanks guys..... I just need somebody to be on my side of the street I can ask. I'm a grown woman but I still need my ESH.

SerenityRUS · ~*Service Worker*~

Cathy hugs big time,

I know you don't want to block him however maybe it's a good idea to put some time between texts? There is a wonderful app if you happen to have a smart phone called Mr. Number and I HIGHLY recommend it .. it will block numbers by sending the number directly to VM and you can do the same with texts .. you can know that you received a text .. you don't have to look at it until YOU are ready. I like it very much and use it and will be using it when I start having to deal with the stbax. This puts the control of when I read them and when I deal with them on MY time not on the A's time table. I can take a breath say the serenity prayer and so on.

Hugs S :)

Mimi3 · Senior Member

Good job NOT engaging (((Cathy)))

You are doing the very very hard work and with such grace:)

Jen61 · ~*Service Worker*~

For me the let go and let God really works. Hugs to you Cathy.

mm830 · Senior Member

You don't have to attend every argument you are invited to Cathy. Good job.

grateful2be · ~*Service Worker*~

These are the kinds of things to me that can only be decided in our hearts with the guidance of our HP. Much encouragement and support, Cathy.

Cathyinaz · ~*Service Worker*~

Thank you all....my heart says don't engage with him. He being a adult can take care of it if and when he is in his right mind and grows up. Cathy is not his keeper.

I want peace and the only way I'm going to get it is to let go and let HP handle it.

Have faith Cathy....have faith it will all work out.....

I deleted the texts so I don't see them and turned off my phone for the evening.

-- Edited by Cathyinaz on Sunday 23rd of February 2014 08:34:04 PM

ladee · Member

This is the only way I will let my AS communicate with me... and I am selective about which texts I answer....he calls it the 'embargo', I call it taking care of myself. I can not get involved or I end up down the rabbit hole.... it's what is working for me, of course working my program, prayer and meetings.... I love him, I can not save him....but I do not have to engage in the insanity either.... you did great..... sending you lots of hugs from one mom to another.

el-cee · ~*Service Worker*~

Your doing so good, Im so far behind. I keep going there over and over. When will I stop? Who knows.x

bud · ~*Service Worker*~

Good job in not reacting Cathy! Practice makes it easier and easier to not collect other people's garbage! It's ok to sit on things and also let go. I'm glad you're focused on keeping Cathy serene!

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

You are doing so well in a very hard situation!!! It is sooo apparent how much you love your son. It's sad isn't it when here we are, we would do anything for them, but the one thing they need is for us not to!

The progress I have seen you make is a miracle in itself, so glad you stayed and you share your esh with everyone.

He sounds like the kind of kid who may need a no pityparty, hard core, many year vet, of AA.

Also I just learned this, that their brains are not matured till around age 21! It's another benchmark where humans finally believe in their own mortality, so we can pray he has some more physical maturing to do, and has a good chance of getting on a program of recovery yet!

You were right,now Dad is getting to see the diseases true colors. Not that he would ever tell you that....

hugs!

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