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hopes314


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I just told my husband I am done and I give up. I can not handle the lying anymore.  

He was supposed to stop drinking since Nov. I found bottles in the trash. Oh here comes the lies. They were empty bottles from when he stopped drinking in Nov. Oh the excuses and the lies. Go protect your addiction. I know it means more than having s wife and kids. 

I have detached so much  that I can't talk to him anymore. Conversation doesn't exist anymore only an arguement so he can slip away. 

I want to see the alcoholic because I can leave that person. It is too hard to leave the person I fell in love with. 

I know if i stay he will destroy himself snd everything around him. 

I am so scared to be on my own butI want to be free of this life. 

I want my attitude to change. I am so tired of being negative is it tearing me up inside. 

I need a merting and to do some readings. 

Ahhhhhhh

There is only hope for me becausI control my life.

 



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Debilyn


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well remember when we say something to them, we must follow through.lf we don't it will make our lives even worse. they won't believe anything we say.

Its a personal decision, if you say it do you mean it?

we are here to support and listen!



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Grace7


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Factoid: A's pay attention to what we Do, not what we Say
We pay attention to what the A's Say, not what they Do........ Now, what do you see wrong with this truthful picture?

Factoid: "Just For Today" Bookmark, pearls of wisdom to help us through, Just for Today, or this minute.

Factoid: When it comes to A's, "Just because you say it, doesn't make it true"..... how wise for us to Remember!

Hugs, Love and Support!!!


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Jen


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My A lied a lot too. He didn't know how to do anything else. I used to take it personally until one day it dawned on me that nobody had ever taught him any different. Boy was that a novel idea. I realized that his lying had nothing to do with me. It was just the only way he knew how to cope. Wow!

You are right when you say that an argument is just so he can slip away. Mine did the same thing until I stopped arguing. Then he was responsible for his addiction. I wasn't handing him an easy excuse anymore. LOL Just one more way I learned to get out of his way, so he could find his own recovery. I had to learn to put my focus on me, to be able to do this, though.

What can you do for yourself today? To make you feel better? Your recovery has nothing to do with him and does not hinge on his sobriety. It's YOUR recovery.

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