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hopes314


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I am so very happy that I found this web site. When I just don't know what to do with the anger, restlessness, irritability, and craziness, I can come here and get the alnon tools to maintain my serenity. 

The moreI can keep myself in this program the better I feel. 

Thanks so much for the replies to my messages. I need some much wisdom and encouragement. 

I am amazeI can function at times. I feel like a robot making movements. I feel likemy brain is stuck in a huge fog. 

I had no idea how depressed I was?  I have gone on 4 hours of sleep a night for 5 months. 

Alnon has helped me focus,  set boundaries, make decisions, take care of myself, and be happy again. 

I am sure my children thank alnon. My AHdoesn't like alnon at all. I do not let him bully me anymore, listen yo his insane fighting or disillusional conversations. 

I don't listen to the AH blame me for everything and that i am wrong all the time. I found I am a  great person who is just beaten down by the disease of alcoholism. 



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hopes314


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.continued.
It appears I can only type so much from the phone and it doesn't want to scroll.

The best thing I figured out is that I refuse to be isolated from friends and people. The more I am around normal people I am aware of how crazy and unhealthy my situation is with the AH.

I thought my AH loved me enough to stop drinking but I have learned about addiction.

Try to get educated on addiction.

I tried to use my normal logic on the alcoholic.

I kept expecting normal behavior from a very sick man. They are very sick.
As much as you want to think they are thinking of you and the kids they are not.

I have started looking at their behavior that speaks the truth not what they say.

They will say anything so you will leave them be to drink. They will fight with you so they can drink.

The only way you could win is if you were a bottle of volka.. then they would want you.

My river of denial has been lifted. It feels so good to be in acceptance but sad too. I am saying goodbye to the person who is gone.. the good person inside the person I fell in love with.. he is gone

Thank you for banding togetherto help each other move from this pain.. it is a very slow journey but very rewarding to find the mini me again.
Have a blessed day.. share your wisdom. It helps plant a seed in the person.
Hope

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jillybean1


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Thanks for the great post! You are right to surround yourself with normal people, that is exactly what I do too.

It takes a lot out of me to try to fight alcoholism, I have not won one battle against it yet and I have the scars to prove it!!!! I prefer now to seek peace and I suppose I can build a "Berlin Wall" to at least keep the fighting away. There are times I know I will take a fight on........when I can prevent a DWI, when I refuse to have him drive the kids (stuff like that). I know I will catch grief but my brother was killed by a drunk driver and that is my firm ground!!!!

Take care!

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One thing I learned in Al Anon is that you can't expect a normal rational conversation with someone who is NOT RATIONAL, LOL. I remember how overwhelmed I felt when my own river of denial left me and even today, it scares me. You're doing great, by the way. It's a learning process, but it's so worth it and there will be lots of bumps in the road. Hugs and lots of support to you!

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wow you have really gotten into and taken to heart the program! so much progress.

i too am so glad you are here to share. You will give many a lot of hope.

thank you so much for your share! debilyn



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Hope ...Mahalo for bringing that ESH here after you learned it so others can have hope also.   Your share is so right on in awareness that it took me back to the time I was learning it.   What a wonderful memory because it was included in the start of getting my sanity back.  Happy with you in your recovery.   Keep working it, keep coming back and keep giving it away.    ((((hugs)))) smile



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