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AlexLeeB9901


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Hello everyone I'm Alex. New to this online chat board thing. Hoping to find some help. I am from America (Louisville, Kentucky) 25 years old. Member of AA for 3 years now. Anyway, I have been in China for 5 months now and have meet an American friend who struggles with alcohol and drugs here. I am also good friends with his wife, she is so depressed about his chronic habits and is contemplating her life. They have two beautiful children very young. I have talked to the husband about a change in his habits being very tactical. Although he does not want to stop I cannot control his decisions. His wife is Chinese and has no knowledge of how alcoholism can affect the whole family. She feels alone and hopeless. My hope here is to find some people I can get her in contact with to build a support group around her. In china there is little to no help on this subject. She has expressed her need for help so I am trying to be of service, maybe it can save her life. She speaks very good English and is open to most of the ideas I've shared with her about her husbands troubles. But being alcoholic I only know my side of the story, I cannot relate to the way she feels. I hope to get some feed back or information on how to handle this.



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Debilyn


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welcome to mip! you are a good friend. Does she have internet access? If so send her to mip. We have meetings here too. She would get lots of support here. hugz, debilyn



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MeTwo2


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Welcome from here too . if her husband struggles with AA i would suggest going with her for support maybe to an alanon meeting .. she can listen, sharing optional .. it's hard going to the first meeting, but usually gets easier after that .. with you there, maybe would make her more comfortable .. maybe would also help you, AA or not.

www.stepchat.com (online support) usually someone there also 24/7 to chat with .. (( Good luck ))

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KennyFenderjazz


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Hi Alex,

Yes, tell her about this group. They are very welcoming, and she can get Experience, Strength, and Hope right away. Just reading other people's stories is usually enough to start bring understanding into ones' life.

Tell her to start coming back!!

Kenny

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AlexLeeB9901


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Great! thank you all for the quick reply and support! I will get her set up on here and check out more online options for her to get involved in. Thanks again. God bless!

Alex

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Jerry F


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Alex I suggest that you keep coming back also...don't confuse it with your AA groups and then this is looking at that side of the disease from the helpless victim (who can learn to lose the helplessness).  Several of the members here are "doubles" meaning that they are memembers and participate separately in each program.  There are close similarities and then while AA is about "not drinking" Al-Anon is about everything else.  Do suggest she drop in or lurk for a while but come.

When anyone anywhere reaches out for help I want the hand of Al-Anon to always be there and for that I am responsible....we have reasons.   (((hugs)))smile



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