Being Hemmed in - A Hockey Team - Liquor abounds - Al-Anon Family Group

grateful2be · ~*Service Worker*~

Being Hemmed in - A Hockey Team - Liquor abounds

Jerry F · ~*Service Worker*~

Aloha G...wide awake post with compassion and empathy...I'm sending a request to my HP asking for more help for those who have to travel and those who were/are drinking and using before turning the key to the ignition. Powerless ...powerless...powerless. (((hugs))) smile

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Dear Catherine

An all to real look at our society and the atmosphere that many of our children move within.

Please take care of yourself and be safe

Praying for you and Dad.

slogan_jim · Senior Member

grateful2be wrote:
A high school hockey team came in during the storm on Friday from a distant state. There was thundering up and down steps and lots of what sounded like jumping and wrestling on the floors above me until 3:30 or 4 each night while they were here. I almost called the desk last night and then thought better of it. This was a field trip for the guys. I wasn't going anywhere. Let them be young was my thought process after I gave some thought to my irritation.

Ah the days! The out of town tournaments were great :) When you're young, staying in a hotel period is exciting and we got to play hockey in the morning.

I guess we never realized the inconvenience we were to the people around us, if we were being loud etc....it speaks to the coach of this team letting them run around....In the end g2b, they will be the ones paying as hitting the ice after being awake till 4am is not a gameplan the pros tend to apply. hahaha

grateful2be · ~*Service Worker*~

Thanks for letting me know you played hockey, too. It really was a handsome, healthy group of guys who were really having a lot of fun. I know that I was probably the same way when I was their age. We weren't being insensitive. We just didn't realize that our enthusiasms and our joy being together on a new adventure could be disturbing to others. Maybe there were elders then, too, who decided just to let the young ones experience some joy and enthusiasm and sacrifice a little of their own sleep, too?

On a more somber note, I had heard one of their coaches say to other adults with him after they got here that he wanted to get to a restaurant and get a drink. Could be it was him who was jumping and wrestling around and not the kids at all? Who knows? All I know is that they were young men having fun when I saw them and heard them thundering up and down stairs. They were all full of promise and they were a delight to my eyes. I just hope they all make it home safely thanks to their HPs.

el-cee · ~*Service Worker*~

Grateful, I hope your Dad is on the mend and Im glad you are okay and not on these roads. I can relate to that horrible realisation that alcoholism is everywhere and children are in the mix. Im in Scotland and in my town there were 4 whisky bonds at one time, only 1 still operating today but what a legacy that has left behind. Alcoholism is rife, drink is deeply ingrained in my community as with most I think. Im just glad there is hope through AA and Alanon.x

Cathyinaz · ~*Service Worker*~

I pray you will get out soon. It's not fun cooped up in a hotel room. Not much to do. Your dad is also in my prayers he will get well soon.

Take care of you my friend....miss you

((( hugs )))

grateful2be · ~*Service Worker*~

Thanks all. So much for being with my Dad through all this. But...I'm not in charge....and God's message thus far has been very clear - it comes to me from all directions:
"STAY OFF THE ROADS!" So, I am. Fortunately, I brought my laptop, so I've got the MIP family to enjoy.

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

I liked how you decided not to complain about the noisy guys.

Giant four year olds~! That was how i saw the high school boys...

I will say a prayer for everyone out there driving in that hard weather. There were actual bosses threatening people to get to work,even though it was clear it was illegal to be out driving!

Well you musta about went nuts being stuck there eh? Hope there was a good place to eat about! I cannot stay in hotel places, gives me the willies, lol. I always block the doors. Plus scared of bugs!

Its funny huh? Have me sleep outside in a cow pasture but oh noooo not any hotel! hugs!

grateful2be · ~*Service Worker*~

Debilyn: As usual, I'm laughing! Yes, I can certainly understand why you'd sleep outside in a cow pasture but oh nooooooo not any hotel. I understand a cow pasture is so bug free and the scent - well, there's just nothing like it!

Actually, although I've felt frustrated that I can't go to the SNF to be with Dad more and I can't get home, I've been treated so well here. My hats off to the staff. Young gals who work so very hard with a big smile on their faces. No complaining. No griping. Just actively working. I've loved being with them.

I brought apples, seeds, tortilla chips and water with me but ran out of that. I've been eating a bagel, milk and fruit for breakfast. Then, I've paid $8.00 a small frozen pizza or $7.00 for Stouffer's lasagna every day. I haven't lost a pound either. The thing that is most maddening - in addition to not being able to even leave the parking lot to spend time with my Dad or to go home is this: I thought about bringing my bathing suit and FORGOT IT!!! They have the most wonderful jacuzzi - huge and 4' deep - and I'm in long pants and sweaters!

There are about 5 people including me here tonight and I forgot my SUIT!!!

So far, no bites - so, I'm assuming - no bugs. oooooo. just a minute. I've got an itch. Now, another. uh-oh. duh-duh-duuuuuuuuuuuhhhhhhhh!

Thanks for the giggle, you funny, funny lady you!

milkwood · ~*Service Worker*~

Good morning Grateful,
I've enjoyed a few 'hotel' families in my time - staying in a hotel for up to three weeks whilst working abroad - and I agree, the staff can be delightful and really helpful. Its a bit like adopting a new family for a while! And my impression is they quite like seeing a familiar 'guest' face as well. I wonder if they have a spare bathing suit - I'd love to think of you lolling in that jacuzzi!
Sending all good wishes for your Dad. Sleep tight and don't let the bed bugs bite!!

yanksfan51 · ~*Service Worker*~

Grateful:

That post made me sit up and take notice...as a teacher there were red flags all over it when I saw 'high school', 'coaches' and 'liquor' in the same sentence. I am praying for the kids, the coaches and anyone on the road whether the adults are drinking and driving or driving while hungover. Yikes!

Prayers for your Dad as well

Sorry to hear you are sort of stuck but hopefully you know, as always, we are all here with you :)

YF

mercedes1959 · Senior Member

Hi and hope you are hanging in there. I need my sleep but I take ear plugs with me where ever I go. Sounds like they had fun. I have had similar experiences with my son's high school baseball coaches. :(

grateful2be · ~*Service Worker*~

How do they get away with it is my question. Aren't most high school coaches also teachers? Maybe not? Regardless! Wow! I was hoping this was just a fluke kinda thing, but reading your post, mercedes, is pointing to a different type of tentative conclusion for me.

neshema2 · ~*Service Worker*~

Jerry F wrote:

Aloha G...wide awake post with compassion and empathy...I'm sending a request to my HP asking for more help for those who have to travel and those who were/are drinking and using before turning the key to the ignition. Powerless ...powerless...powerless. (((hugs)))

I SO agree with Jerry, of course, I would not expect anything different from you then your grace, compassion and empathy.....please be careful and of course you got my prayers.....and as J said..."Powerless...powerless...powerless" and I am sending you some HUGS as well

mercedes1959 · Senior Member

Well grateful, in our neck of the woods they don't. The coaches I travelled with were "off season" coaches, one was fired from the school for being involved with a female student.

likemyheart · ~*Service Worker*~

I don't think you did them any favors by not complaining! I would even go so far as to complain to the offending school and their school board. Parents would be upset if they knew that the kids entrusted to the coaches were allowed to do as you describe - hearing adults talk about kids and their wild teenage drinking parties like its just another part of growing up infuriates me.

grateful2be · ~*Service Worker*~

I understand, LMH. Had I known there was all this liquor flowing in the rooms prior to their leave-taking, I may have made another choice. In this case, didn't happen. I also have no idea of where they're from other than Wisconsin and even that information was probably more than a normal resident in a motel would know or the name of their team. I, too, am and was surprised that adults would drink with children and teens in their company. I don't know that the teens were drinking in this case. Just adults.

PM me if you have any other thoughts on this. I'd be glad to fill you in on any additional details I might have omitted or written without as much clarity as I thought it was written? Thanks, sister.

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