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bijela


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Just when I think I am rid of this stupid stoner alcoholic exboyfriend, he texts me again.  The problem is that I can't go get a restraining order because he hasn't threatened me. He told me that he still loves me and he has a new job now. Of course I didn't respond to it. I just put this new number of his in the blocked number app. 

 

*sigh* I really do not want to have to change my  number because it will be very expensive for me to get all of my cards, website and everything else for my art commission stuff changed. It would take tons of commissions and jobs just to make up for changing this.

 

I really hate him. I hate how he can't just leave me  alone. At least his sister hasn't contacted me. I sure hope she doesn't. That whole family is pestilence.

 



-- Edited by Debilyn on Sunday 26th of January 2014 09:53:59 PM

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grateful2be


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Well, since you don't want to change your number, it looks to me as if you did the next best thing? You blocked his new phone #. Simple. Done. Good for you.

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bijela


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I still worry about them coming to my house to harm me. =( 



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grateful2be


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I can understand that. What can you do to help yourself feel safer? Anything?

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Did he ever hit you? Was he violent? Did he get into physical fights with people? Did he have a nasty temper?

If your answer to these questions is no then I would say the chances of him coming to attack you are slim.

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B...if it is causing you to fear is it emotional threatening...call and ask about the TRO.  I use to facilitate TRO under those conditions.   ((((hugs)))) smile



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I know it sounds simplistic but I agree with G2B. He's blocked. You dont have to read a text message. I had someone bothering me with emails and FB posts and texts. I just dont read them. I delete immediately. It's only a bother if I read it, right?

Sometimes the simplest answer for our own serenity doesn't penetrate our emotional distress.



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I agree totally with all of the suggestions mentioned .. in my own situation I had to take it a step further when I listed out what I had been dealing with in another post .. while in the middle of it .. it was normal .. now that I'm out of the violation of the OP .. I look back and OMGOSH .. I really put up with some serious BS and it was NOT ok. The intense harassment that was happening .. it was above and beyond and honestly I don't know what was his motivation was to do this .. I ended it through the Emergency Order of Protection. I avoided engaging him, the texting got more bizzaro. I did say 1x this needs to stop and THEN I went and got the EOP .. I have been successful in keeping it for 7 months. I hope to keep it at least another 5 months. Anyway, BIG HUGS!! Blocking the calls is a good step .. if you keep a paper trail of the texts you CAN get a TRO or an EOP .. hugs and good luck :)

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Debilyn


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I believe everyone needs to keep a can or two of that yellow jacket spray that sprays out 20 feet. There is nothing wrong with being prepared.

Also trust your intuition. I started locking my doors again and hang more bells around.

You did not respond, you blocked. Good for you!!! I would also write down the day he called, time etc.

I hope he leaves you alone. Usually those sick families won't bother with you if you stick to your side of the street.

hugz,debilyn



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