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phoenixmagicgirl


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My former AB celebrated being 5 years sober on Monday..tonight my dad and I went to his celebration meeting..the place was packed!! :) :) :) Words can't describe how proud of him I am!! I'm crying as I write this..it's remarkable to see how far he's come!! On the other hand, my AM didn't come because she'd been drinking..I think deep down that hurt him to not have her there in spite of the fact that their relationship is more strained b/c of her constant drinking..not that he'd admit that.. I'm powerless over her drinking as much as I want her to stop..I can't. But I have to take care ofmyself..reading One Day at a Time..praying etc. If y'all wouldn't mind praying for me..I haven't been doing well with either of those things.. Thank you. I cried tonignt for 20 minutes about my AM..asking my HP (who I call God) why we were going through this..I don't get it..the only thing I can do is to give it to Him today..that His will be done as painful as it is watching her go through this.. I have to try and catch some sleep..have to be up in 6 hours...

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KennyFenderjazz


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My AW was so happy to get her 60 day token. 5 years is HUGE!

I hope you can find peace through your HP. I so hate powerlessness, accepting that is the hardest thing to do sometimes.

Peace
Kenny

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Dear Phoenixmagicgirl,

I am so happy that you were able to celebrate such a profound occasion in the recovery of your boyfriend.

You sound greatand it is encouraging  to hear that you are using the tools and feeling better yourself. That is actually how the program works.

Praying for mom and asking for guidance is the best tool you can use to help her at this time.

Thanks for the update and please keep coming back.



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There is hope for your Mom just like for your brother if she chooses to get treatment. With that said, the good I see in this is that you and your Dad were able to celebrate your brother's recovery work that he chose for himself. In my family, there are multiple alcoholics although my parents were not alcoholics. In order to survive and thrive, I had to move away from my family to see that our family and I had been damaged by the disease that required me to step up to the plate of AlAnon for myself. No one else in my family of origin have seen they need help, too. They're still doing what we've always done - reacting to fear. I am powerless over every member of my family and the way the disease of alcoholism has affected us all. What I'm not powerless over is where I go for help, support, and program practice. Thanks to my sponsor, program tools, and dear members of our fellowship, I have been able to stay pretty program focused without thinking there is anything I can do to change my family members - the drinking ones and the not drinking ones. It is painful to accept that the family we want isn't the family we have. But, once accepted, we see we have choices as to what we will do to help ourselves and where to go for encouragement, support and
solutions. Keep coming back, PG, and working your program. Your Mom's HP is there for her. Your MIP family is here for you.

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Mari1978


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Hugs and prayers PG!

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Debilyn


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I am thankful your AB is doing well. I am sure he loved the support!

Yes prayers are on their way. I am sad you hurt so much! There are some things in life that are very hard to face and be able to smile.

Sending you love,debilyn



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phoenixmagicgirl


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I'm sorry if I wasn't clear..when I said AB I meant my Alcoholic Brother.. sorry for the confusion

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Thats great news Pheonix and what a great example to your Mother. I have listened to shares where people talk about their whole family being in a program, I hope this happens for you.x

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phoenixmagicgirl


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Thank you to everyone for their support and prayers. It means a lot!!

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Thank you for sharing the happy times in your life.  That is wonderful for your brother. HUGS.



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