Don't try and keep an eye on them - Al-Anon Family Group

Cathyinaz · ~*Service Worker*~

Don't try and keep an eye on them

SerenityRUS · ~*Service Worker*~

Hugs Cathy, my own worst enemy is between my ears. Glad to hear you are taking care of you! S :)

grateful2be · ~*Service Worker*~

It gets easier and easier to accept that we just don't know what we just don't know and to stay in our own little hula hoop while we let the rest of the world spin without our help. Projection is a learned behavior that takes us awhile to unlearn as we practice minding our own business without scaring ourselves by believing past or future experiences or possibilities. I've been at this for a long time and still project. I just become aware of what the mind is doing quicker and can get back into my own body and reality as it is more quickly, too. There was a time I had no idea that I could stop projecting or that I was projecting. You're coming along fine, Cathy. I'll bet you never questioned your fears and your projections once upon a time. Now, here you are - recognizing that your thoughts and feelings don't necessarily match reality - at times. No use being mad at yourself over it. The mind does what it does and we learn to detach from thoughts of disaster that are once again stuck in the past or projecting into the future with practice.

el-cee · ~*Service Worker*~

Glad its all okay Cathy, good lesson.x

AngelicH57 · Senior Member

Wonderful News Cathy! {{{ Hugs}}}

Katytexasmom · Veteran Member

Boy can I relate! Thanks for sharing, it's a powerful reminder!

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

Face it, you are hopeless! lol hugs!!! You are a mom, so I expect a mom to keep tabs to a point. Letting go does not have to mean we completely cut them out you know!

Al Anon teaches us to learn to put us, our needs first. To allow the A to grow or not grow, make their own decisions, allow them to put themselves first, not the disease.

Cathy everytime I see ya here I see progress. Maybe you can learn to laugh at yourself?

I have a goal to stop falling. So I have to walk slower, watch every footstep, if I am tired I have to stop. Yes I was doing great!

Making so much progress not allowing my disabilities/challenges to run my life I had to use some skills.

Well I did way too much yesterday, got a ton of groceries and feed. Was exausted when I got home, almost fell over five times, then finally I did, I slipped with armloads of bags and mashed my face, nose glasses forehead into the metal part of my screen door in the corner. Fell right into it via my face.

Does this mean I blew it again? Does this make my not falling and paying attention for weeks all for not?

Nope not to me.

I am so glad you are here! Just keep going! hugz! OH how are the cats doing? I have two who hate each other, I have separate feeding stations for them, and they both have their own high places to sleep and hang out.

Cathyinaz · ~*Service Worker*~

I can still play games with my son on our phones just need to check my motives for doing it. Right now I might not be able to because I'm using it in the wrong way.

The cats are OK.....just I can't stand the marking. I'm cleaning and cleaning and cleaning to the point I do not want to clean anymore. The cats are making me crazy. They all need to go...sigh

Thanks all for the ESH and just knowing I'm not alone

(((( hugs ))))

neshema2 · ~*Service Worker*~

Cathyinaz wrote:
Well come to find out he's not drinking......he's busy. What kind of crap is this I'm doing to myself GEEZ.......
One more learning lesson in the books. Try to be sneaking and it will bite you in the butt every time.

LET TO LET GOD

awareness...........acceptance................action............sounds like you did ok, in my books..........so yea, you did a mind job on you but you caught it......accepted it and now you know what you gotta do........it happens to the best of us.........

Rose50 · Senior Member

That's great news, Cathy. And you are so much stronger these days, my friend.

((hugs))

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