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Monday was an awesome day .. made better by the fact STBAX accepted the deal .. woo hoooo! FINALLY .. I know he didn't have sense because his kid was going to have to testify against him .. it was the fact he was actually facing jail time if it went to court and even his atty was going .. you can't go to court for a multitude of reasons you will loose.
A small funny thought that I had .. COMPLETELY inappropriate .. I'm an expensive date .. 1 text goes for 4k and that doesn't include sex!
The sad thing to come out of this because he won't be able to drink when he has the kids .. I seriously doubt he will take the kids for 12 months because he knows .. they aren't going to tolerate his drinking either. I've no doubt that will be the first thing he will do because the first thing you tell him don't do .. that's the first thing he does .. he doesn't get it. He will take his anger for his atty and me out on his children some more .. very sad.
My sponsor was teasing me on the phone the other night .. well I bet that's the last time he tells you to prove something .. I told her .. you would think .. unfortunately I doubt. There are many other phrases he would be good to avoid stating to me .. he's not smart enough to avoid using them.
So 3 more BIG hurdles to get through there is another one coming on 1/30 .. of course another court date .. it will be the last for the EOP .. I'm soooo grateful. So the ONLY thing I should be going to court for is the divorce .. woo hoo!! Hopefully .. sooner than later that will get done.
I still have 2 more things after that based upon some of the language that was used .. I just feel two things .. first is he's ready to get the divorce done. Second .. his atty is done with him. So I figure based upon this particular atty's behavior .. he will pretty much sell STBAX down the river on the divorce .. while I won't get everything .. I will get a good portion of it. I think his atty is telling him you pissed that woman off in ways that boggle the mind consider it short term pain for long term gain .. it's time to move on and just deal.
Anyway, thank you for being here and being supportive .. the relief I feel that my daughter doesn't have to testify against her dad .. there are no words .. just sheer relief. I've been trying to be careful .. I've been riding pretty high since Monday when I found out.
Hugs S :)
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Faith minus vulnerability and mystery equals extremism. If you've got all the answers, then don't call what you do "faith". - Brene Brown
"Whatever truth you own doesn't own you" - Gary John Bishop
I had therapy today and I'm just in a really good place. The theme for myself is where can I start letting go of conflict. I know where to start .. and that is a good thing. Very honestly, I got everything I asked for in June .. how embarrassed can one arty get .. this is the second time I've shown him up. So two judges .. the state's arty .. and now a new charge on his clients record. No arty for me .. his arty must be very, very angry. I doubt I will get more hate mail in the form of offer letters and I'm ok with that too. Like I said on to step number 2 .. this is a good thing. I'm just always grateful and amazed at how the God of my understanding works. Hugs :)
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Faith minus vulnerability and mystery equals extremism. If you've got all the answers, then don't call what you do "faith". - Brene Brown
"Whatever truth you own doesn't own you" - Gary John Bishop
I'm glad for your success and grateful that your daughter does not have to testify. I hope the other two things go just as smoothly. Continued prayers.
Well, I'm waiting on a phone call from a place at the moment and I will have a better idea of what is going on at that point.
I am also having some atty issues and I'm not sure how to address them .. if someone else has experienced this and they don't want to share on the board I would be grateful for a PM. I found out at the beginning of Dec that my current atty is moving at the end of this month. She has done nothing in terms of my divorce since September. Even that was done by the mediator and I don't want to get him in trouble .. however I'm just beside myself on what to do. I'm disturbed because I found out that at the meeting in December she could have saved me a TON of money and we are in dispute over the bill. She's not happy with me because I did call her out in front of the new atty and honestly .. suck it up butter cup .. wrong is wrong and she was way way way out of line. Now .. what part of me is she fully unaware of .. you would think she would realize .. I'm not going to give up on this .. 14k I have spent this is BS .. I'm still married I don't belong to any part of the Hiltons or any other high power family .. I might be worth a total of 5k. I'm beyond disgusted with this part of the deal. I had to laugh to myself .. again .. these people just need to let the kids and I move .. so many things would get better for people.
So do I go to a new atty which will delay things? Do I try and finish things up with these people? I've been doing a LOT of praying at the moment.
Unfortunately, I am going to have to do more court time for divorce reasons it won't be like the issue of the EOP .. it should take less than 45 days and two court dates IF my STBAX and his atty are smart. At least it's related to the divorce directly and again the Judge in the case is going to be going .. what part of court order do you not get? LOL?
Interestingly enough a young lady I worked with years ago in Youth Advocate .. I ran into her at the local college and that was a fluke .. I know it's God telling me to pay attention .. her cousin is an atty (someone I'm not thrilled with however .. ) he gave her names of atty's he recommended .. one is a lady this gal really liked .. so I may go and talk to her and see what she thinks about what is going on. I ran into at Target .. which is a running joke with anyone who knows me I'm ALWAYS there because I'm having an affair with Mr Target .. LOL.
Anyway, .. has anyone gone to the bar over an atty? Has anyone had dealings that have gone on in this manner? Did the divorce ever happen? What is the longest?
Again .. I'm looking for experiences at this point .. and if it's something people don't want to share on the boards that's ok .. just PM me. It takes me a while to get back to people because while I can post responses I can't post a new thread or look at my PM's until I get to a real computer.
Hugs S :)
PS - My daughter is put out about not going to court .. LOL .. typical she is her mother's daughter .. it wasn't about her dad .. it was about the fact that she wanted to know how the courts worked and see a live action trial .. I told her we could go on a field trip and just check things out during the summer. I might be able to get a tour .. LOL .. I know enough people even my daughter laughed and said while we were there .. umm .. mom .. who don't you know here? :)
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Faith minus vulnerability and mystery equals extremism. If you've got all the answers, then don't call what you do "faith". - Brene Brown
"Whatever truth you own doesn't own you" - Gary John Bishop
