The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
My cousin who I mentioned yesterday is starting to give up! I went through this w/ her before last summer. I feel like I am totally powerless & helpless because she is hopeless or feeling that way anyway. I have to deal w/ the sadness right now. I am very present in her life. She called me this morning w/ a definite lack of positivity. I love her & want what is best for her. Maybe it is not me she needs. I am her only cousin that she keeps in touch w/. Besides her husband & two grown kids, it seems like I am it! She is trying to manage the pain but it has a full grip on her. When I talk to her later I am going to have to be careful how I approach her. She is very likely to lose it! I can't read her totally. I am just glad she still has her sanity. I really do know what she is going through but not to the extent that I hear her saying. If she makes it through today, I will be there for her. I mean she just has less than 24 hrs. to go. I am hoping that she can get help from a professional. My fingers are crossed that someone can help her.
I am sorry to hear that your cousin is in such pain. Remember that you are powerless over others and that having compassion and empathy for her means that you continue to take care of yourself. Prayer is an positive thoughts or a great tool to use as you speak to her.
