The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I have been doing a lot of reading and reflecting lately, and have come to realize that I feel more acceptance of who I am for where I am, mistakes flaws and everything than ever in my life. And more self acceptance as a result. So when they say acceptance is the answer to all of your problems, there is a silver lining to that. There is a self acceptance that grows from being yourself and finding love in this group that gives you more than you thought possible. And its acceptance for who you are, where you are, faults, strengths, weaknesses everything. So so grateful for this and it has made such a difference in everything for me lately.
Thank you. I had been framing acceptance as acceptance of the A. I had to just flat out face that I was behaving like a crazy person obsessing if A was out doing things I was imagining or maybe really was/is. Judging what he was spending money on who his friends were and in this constant victim poor me mode, manipulative and just plain whacko. Yuck. So the acceptance that has done me the biggest favor has been accepting that I was completely out of control, probably still am in some ways but its getting better every day.
Your post, MM, makes me smile and feel such affection for you, too. We are all mixed bags - from the youngest of us to the most seasoned of us - and when we can accept that there is much more peace. We aren't fully saints. We aren't fully sinners (for lack of a better word). We're just human beings with gifts and with limits. A fellowship of equals as the program states. Welcome to yourself.
