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I had posted a while back (Christmas I believe) about a friend of mine that was very ill. It didn't look good then...He hung in there for 3 weeks. He died today. It was gut wrenching. He was only 47 but had been diagnosed with lymphoma, then had 3 strokes, then blood clotting, then organ failure....one thing after another. His partner had to make the choice to cut off life support. We all gathered round the bed holding hands and crying while we watched him take his last breaths. I have never seen anyone actually die like that. So many thoughts...feelings. It does make me reflect on how I used to take my life for granted when I drank. I also left my ex-A largely because I didn't want to watch him die (slowly killing himself). Life is precious. I'm glad I see that now. Just had it reinforced even more today.
I'm sorry, Pinkchip, that your friend suffered so much before he died. I'm also glad that those closest to him were with him when he let go of this life. Together, you can help each other remember him and honor his spirit, too. I don't know him so I can't speak for him. But, if it were me who died, I'd want my friends to look after my partner for as long as he needed them. (((PC)))
So sorry. Glad you both were there for your friends. I'm sure it meant a lot. So many people stay far away at times like that because they don't know what to do or say.
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"Just being there for someone can sometimes bring hope when all seems hopeless." - Dave G. Llewellyn
Hugs Pink .. I'm sooo sorry for your families loss .. it is so wonderful you got to say goodbye the way all of you did .. loved and supported by the people who mean the most. Hugs S
PS - Agreed .. take very good care of yourself ..
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Faith minus vulnerability and mystery equals extremism. If you've got all the answers, then don't call what you do "faith". - Brene Brown
"Whatever truth you own doesn't own you" - Gary John Bishop
I am sorry for your loss. Your friend was blessed to go with so much love around when leaving this world, although it doesn't make it easier for any of you right now.
I'm sorry for your loss . I know what it looks like to see your loved one friend pass away in front of you .i watched my dad and my sister and it's the worst thing ever to have to view . But he is in a good place pain and suffering free . His spirit will live on with all of you there with him to help him pass Easier . My heart goes out to all that new him
That is gut wrenching Pink...very. What has always helped me go "thru" it has been the lessons on acceptance. My wife and I were attending my mom shortly before her death and mom was very afraid of course and when we were about to leave she got very agitated with the leaving and so I took my wife into the hallway and she asked me "what can we do". I replied "we can go back in and teach her what weve learned about living under the stress of alcoholism with the slogans and the Al-Anon principles and in return she can teach us what it is like to be dying. When we finally were ready to go my Mom was relaxed and not fighting her condition or our leaving and we had more awareness and experience with the dying process which we haven't done so yet. Emotional yes with condition. ((((hugs))))
your friend left surrounded by love and support...and you have good friends who share your grief and loss...
this kind of pain is part of being human...glad you are here to experience the full range of emotions now...years ago...you would have done differently...
Hugs Mark, cherish life and honor your friend by remembering him well.
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I am strong in the broken places. ~ Unknown
All changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy; for what we leave behind us is a part of ourselves; we must die to one life before we can enter another! ~ Anatole France
Sorry for your loss, pc. It is a terrible thing when people die too soon. I'm really glad you had all your friends around you when he passed away. You will remember that for a long time.
