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Happy new year everyone! I've been lurking and getting a lot of support from this board and my f/f meetings etc. Funny how yesterdayI expressed how thankful I'm for the things my H/P allow to come into my life and I say "thank you" and look for what I'm supposed to learn from it.
Well today, I'm feeling very anxious and stressed. I allowed my 27+y.o. grandson to stay with me until his housing certificate came, he is working, not making much money because of 3 children he has to pay child support for. I refused to let him stay for free. So I asked him if $5.00 per day would be better than staying in his truck. We wrote and he signed a contract. Well it worked for about 2 months, then he wanted to change things on the contract and it's been downhill every since. I gave him a written 30 day notice on 1/2/14 to vacate my home and take all of his belongings.
Current status of my A/A daughter, I saw her in Nov. @ my bro. funeral and she called to wish me a merry Christmas, she has been spending some time with some of her cousins and her bro.who live (60) miles away. She told me and I've from others her plan is to move to the town (60) miles away where her cousins live and go into rehab. I told her I was proud of her and hope it work out for her. Mind you, she started talking about this in Nov. gave 30 day notice, now today my son tell me she calls him 2-3 days ago to come help her move, he lives in this town also, he doesn't have the means to help her, no money, no truck and she is suppose to be out of the apt. by tomorrow. When i spoke to her last I told her she would have to work this out for herself as I was staying out of her and God's business.
I can tell when I'm under pressure and stress, my l. arm start to feel a little strange, kind of achey.
Please pray for me and my family that I will do the right thing for all of us, esp. me.
Gettingitright!!
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Just go a step at a time, one day at a time. And you'll find a rich, thankful life you never thought you could afford.--A Rogers
First, I want to send you my condolences in the recent loss of your brother. You've had so much on your plate of late. I also want to commend you on creating a fair and reasonable contract with your grandson and when he wanted to change it, agreeing to disagree with a boundary in place for you and a reasonable out date in place for him. When we do the right thing for ourselves and we're at peace with it, others get to choose to do what they will do and the consequences are theirs - not ours.
((((Getting it right))))...I just know you are 3cing this with both of them. Lets see how they work this out using their own tools. In support...prayers already going...
Sounds as if you are doing the right thing by them. They need to follow their own path.
However, that left arm aching bothers me a bit. My mom's arm used to ache when she was under severe stress and eventually she was diagnosed with a heart problem. It would be worth checking it out . Take care of yourself!
Thank u all for your support and prayers. I will just keep on believing God is working things out for our good. And thanks deacon I'll check out the heart thing. I'm reading the book don't let your grown kids kill you, I believe it can happen if we let it.
Gettingitright!!
-- Edited by Highlyfavored on Friday 10th of January 2014 07:31:04 PM
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Just go a step at a time, one day at a time. And you'll find a rich, thankful life you never thought you could afford.--A Rogers
