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my interview went well! She said she has to check my references but that's just a technicality I got the job, orientation Monday! A lot less money than I made as a nurse but itll do until I can get enough money to renew my license. As soon as she saw my references she said I have more experience than she does . Excited to get on with the rest of MY LIFE. Will have to deal with AH at some point in the next few days as he refused to take any clothes when he left and refuses to believe I am really done with this. Just praying for strength to not give in, reminding myself I know what I cant change I know what I can change I can not change him I can not cure him I can change what I choose to accept and I choose not to accept being treated this way anymore. A few friends have ask me about dating, just the thought is scary but I told them I am no where near ready to think about that at all. I do love my husband even after all he has put me threw and right now I cant even contemplate seeing someone else In time maybe Ill think about moving on but for now I am focused on taking care of me and just being me nothing else. Lord just give me the strength to resist when he comes in telling me he cant make it without me he knows just how to manipulate me and even though I know that I always find myself weak to resist. I will do my best and that is all I can do. Thank you all for the support!!
Congratulations!!!! How exciting. You got the job.
As to the dating, why is it that friends sometimes think that we want to jump from one frying pan into another? Good for you in knowing that dating is not something you want to entertain right now!
Being focused on taking care of you is perfect!!!! If you know the disease is manipulating you, it can no longer manipulate you, April. Once you know what you know, you can make new choices.
You aren't choosing to resist him but his disease. You are also choosing to use energy to change yourself and your life. Good program work.
Congratulations, great news. Ive been seperated from my ex for around 5 yrs now, maybe 6 and completely free for about almost 2 years and dating!!! no way. Im all about me, getting to know me, loving me, recovering from the affects of living with alcoholism. The chances are that if I rushed into another relationship I would have been distracted from my recovery and ended up with someone damaged just like me and then we would start disaster mark 2. Separating is the easy bit in the end. Its the aftermath, the getting yourself back to sanity that can be challenging.x
Go you!! Great job to you! I knew you would get this job!!
When one door closes, another will open! Stay in the now, the future will take care of itself:)
Do you have a sponsor? She will be KEY in helping you with your addiction to your husband...or at least thats how it was for me, He was addicted to alcohol & I was addicted to him....
Focus on you, your HP's will for you & you will be amazed at how it will all work out the way its meant to:)
BIG HUGS YOU, thank you for sharing your very exciting news! WOOT WOOT!!
Congratulations on both your job find and your decision to be done with the manipulation. All we can do is the best we can, at any given moment. We make the best decisions we can based on the information we have at that moment. Just because circumstances change doesn't mean it wasn't a good decision at the time we made it. This was hard for me to grasp. I thought I had to read the future and if the outcomes weren't how I'd hoped it meant I made a bad decision. I can only make a decision based on the facts in the now, not in the future. You've got it right no matter what the future holds.
For me, when I finally internalized this truth about real life I heaved a huge sigh of relief. I carried the weight of the world. But we are in charge of footwork; HP is in charge of outcomes.
. Excited to get on with the rest of MY LIFE. Will have to deal with AH at some point in the next few days as he refused to take any clothes when he left and refuses to believe I am really done with this. Just praying for strength to not give in, reminding myself I know what I cant change I know what I can change I can not change him I can not cure him I can change what I choose to accept and I choose not to accept being treated this way anymore. A few friends have ask me about dating, just the thought is scary but I told them I am no where near ready to think about that at all. I do love my husband even after all he has put me threw and right now I cant even contemplate seeing someone else In time maybe Ill think about moving on but for now I am focused on taking care of me and just being me nothing else. Lord just give me the strength to resist when he comes in telling me he cant make it without me he knows just how to manipulate me and even though I know that I always find myself weak to resist. I will do my best and that is all I can do. Thank you all for the support!!
