A Mixed Bag - Al-Anon Family Group

mm830 · Senior Member

A Mixed Bag

SerenityRUS · ~*Service Worker*~

I'm sorry for your frustration and disappointment .. yes, yea for you that you see what you can't get and where you can find it. The lies still boggle the mind for me .. at least I know it's not about me. Hugs .. work that program!

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

This is good. Sometimes people never get to the point of,um why am I holding this rock??

This is why I learned to just love him, that his disease is his own. People tend to forget that alcohol destroys their brains or their brains are sopping with alcohol and not water like they are suppose to be. When the organs, all of them and skin and everything is so compromised, they are super brain damaged. sick sick sick.

Its a horrible disease. May God love them. hugs to you! debilyn

grateful2be · ~*Service Worker*~

And to add to Debilyn's response: And may you feel your HP's love, too.

ilovedogs · ~*Service Worker*~

My sponsor always says, "Drop the rope" or "how important is it?" I have to remember those when I feel the urge to call him out on a lie. Actually, it's funny that you posted this tonight because I caught my AH in a lie tonight about his whereabouts(he was drinking but lied and said he had visited a customer). There's still a part of me that wants to be right, that wants validation, that wants to show him that I know the truth dontcha know, and whatcha gonna do about it now, smart guy? LOL, now I have to laugh at myself because I know it's futile. It's like trying to nail jello to a tree. Hugs to you tonight, we all understand here!

mm830 · Senior Member

Thank you. I am just tired of being someone else's moral compass I finally realize its not my job. So I do see progress. And jello to a tree, lol, they are a charming lot these A's. Serenity now lol. Love you all mip.

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

(((MM))

Love not having to be the "Truth Police" any longer as well biggrin

Good Work

texas yankee · Senior Member

Is it realistic to look at the lies as coming from the disease, not the person? When I get manipulated and mislead, I always remind myself that it's the disease inside my son that's really talking, not my son - my son's not working a program - he's still under the spell of his disease - and the disease is still very strong in him.

Jerry F · ~*Service Worker*~

That is a growth spurt on your part MM...I like reading that...Thanks much ((((hugs)))) smile

Breakingfree · ~*Service Worker*~

I hear growth and one of my best lessons after the 3 C's (you did not cause it, you can not cure it, and you can not control it) was the 3 A's after you become aware, you accept, than you can take action. Sending you much love and support!

PP · ~*Service Worker*~

(((Hugs))) aww aww aww

pinkchip · ~*Service Worker*~

Kudos to you. My alanon program is not there yet. I think I would be compelled to say "Does your butt hurt?...you know from your pants being on fire....LIAR!" I will keep coming back.

mm830 · Senior Member

Lol pinkchip, thing is if I ask A about it he will deny and get mad, blameshift, I know the truth, so why fight with him. It's self preservation. Love the pants on fire, the mental image of it actually a good laugh for me this morning.

Cathyinaz · ~*Service Worker*~

Fighting with them is like talking to the Borg.....your resistance is futile.

Melly1248 · ~*Service Worker*~

lol both of you. Now I can only see A as a Borg with flaming pants on. He'll wonder why I am giggling when he comes out to ask me for food/cigarettes/money/beer later tonight and say's "I'll pay you back".
Hugs mm

I'm resigning as the truth police too. He can paint his reality any way he likes; it doesn't have to be mine, or yours.

grateful2be · ~*Service Worker*~

Okay! I admit it. I haven't a clue what the Borg might be. I can see the flaming pants though.

Melly1248 · ~*Service Worker*~

It's a Star Trek thing, G2B. Cathy and I are nerds, u see

grateful2be · ~*Service Worker*~

AHHHHHHHHHHH! Thank you! I still don't have a clue what a Borg is and perhaps this is one of those "You've got to be there" kinds of things?

Melly1248 · ~*Service Worker*~

Sorry mm830. This is a bit of a weird twist we have taken

-- Edited by Melly1248 on Tuesday 7th of January 2014 11:39:29 AM

mm830 · Senior Member

No apologies needed this is such a good laugh. I read a thread a few weeks ago where someone here who is a genius played the grease soundtrack in her mind whole the A was ranting, so now I will have a heck of an image and soundtrack in ny mind while the A rants and lies. Love love love mip.

Melly1248 · ~*Service Worker*~

Great, now my flaming-pants Borg is singing "you better shape up" in Olivia Newton John's voice whenever he starts a sentence with "I'm going to". Is that the kind of visual you have, mm?
I came here to get less crazy! lol
love back at ya
(((mm)))

mm830 · Senior Member

Yes Melly, the exact image. I am almost looking forward to the ranting next time. I used the Grease soundtrack trick already it helps. Now it will just be plain entertaining when he starts the usual scripted rage filled rant.

ryanhearted · Senior Member

OMG, too funny! What a great way to lighten things up!! A Borg with pants on fire singing "you better shape up!" Needed that laugh!!! Now I can go to bed!

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