Letting go of things that don't support my sense of well-being - Al-Anon Family Group

grateful2be · ~*Service Worker*~

Letting go of things that don't support my sense of well-being

SerenityRUS · ~*Service Worker*~

Hugs grateful, I find it so much better to just be aware of what is going on and then use common sense. If the roads are closed .. why go out unless it's a major emergency. In my area he roads are closed and even the schools shut down yesterday for today. Again .. common sense dictates .. it's a God given gift .. use it and if you don't have any borrow someone else's! I stopped buying the media hype when I was in my 20s it was the year of el Nino, la Nina, the year of the flu, the year of the shark, just to name a few and unfortunately I had said years ago before Katrina one of these days there will be an emergency and no one will believe because journalism has gone from reporting the news to shock and fear value. I'm so glad you are choosing to unplug from the negativity. The kids and I have been house bound by choice since Saturday. I am pretty sure my car won't start and that's ok I will deal with it tomorrow. This too shall pass .. spring will come again. I'm so grateful we haven't lost power. I'm sure there are those who have and the kids and I made a gratitude list last night before bed! It was funny to listen to them chatter. We slept in the living room the bedrooms are too cold!Â Hugs and support s :)

PP · ~*Service Worker*~

I love your metaphors and I could hear from your previous posts that you were in a peaceful state. I have a big tree in my yard that I sit near when I am feeling ungrounded. It gives me the sense of rootedness you speak of. I am becoming more keenly aware of how I am affected by beliefs, feelings, that are within me yet not of me. My HP, which is God, is within me and of me, and that presence is the simple, pure rooted truth within and of me. Pre- recovery, I did not know this, so I reacted to anything and everything and this was hell for me. Thank you for this share this blustery morning (((grateful))).

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Grateful2B

Thank you for your important Awareness. The Drama Queens on our Nnightly News Programs, certainly like to stir up the pot. This really does seem to cause my adrenaline to flow unnecessarily.

It really is so important to check within and determine the "real weather " and know the truth.

Good Work.

Thanks for sharing with us.

barbaralewis · Veteran Member

wow, this post makes me feel so calm. thank you so much for sharing it. you really helped my mindset.

yanksfan51 · ~*Service Worker*~

thank you grateful-

that is a calming and nurturing post and a reminder that we have within us and w our HP what we need

(((grateful)))

YF

Jerry F · ~*Service Worker*~

When the students are ready...the teacher arrives...with her tree. That kept me at my desk listening cause for me metaphors are pictures and help me understand what I'm listening to. You teach good. Mahalo. ((((hugs)))) smile

Breakingfree · ~*Service Worker*~

I so needed to read this this morning. Thank you! Sending you much love and support!

milkwood · ~*Service Worker*~

A lovely post, that you Grateful.
I planted a silver birch in my garden to remind me that sometimes it is good to bend like a tree when the elements are battling our senses. It is the first thing I see in the morning - I'm glad you've got a good tree conversation as well!
I hope you are keeping warm and cosy.

neshema2 · ~*Service Worker*~

PP wrote:
I love your metaphors and I could hear from your previous posts that you were in a peaceful state. I have a big tree in my yard that I sit near when I am feeling ungrounded. It gives me the sense of rootedness you speak of. I am becoming more keenly aware of how I am affected by beliefs, feelings, that are within me yet not of me. My HP, which is God, is within me and of me, and that presence is the simple, pure rooted truth within and of me. Pre- recovery, I did not know this, so I reacted to anything and everything and this was hell for me. Thank you for this share this blustery morning (((grateful))).

Good shares, grateful and Paula....I, too , am doing stuff to put me back on the ground....did my step one w/a recovery mate (sponsor is out) and i got so relaxed, i napped a bit....the willow tree never gets uprooted and shes a tiny thing, but smart...bends with the winds, I am working on being more like the willow and less like the oak

mercedes1959 · Senior Member

Hi grateful - I do the same thing, look at the wonderful things nature brings us. It always lifts my spirits. I rarely listen to the news. I was thinking as I was walking out the door this morning about something and wondering, it's your post title....things that are not good for my well being. There are things in my life that are not good for my well being, my alanon and acoa traits, that committee in my head automatically said to me, you shouldn't let go of that thing that is not good for you, I felt guilty. I walk with some ladies in my neighborhood. When walking is supposed to be good for you, I find myself questioning if I should be walking with these ladies. They like to quote the news every day. It's all negative. One of them has some kind of mental issue, it has never been discussed but she always responds with very strange comments, doesn't understand the conversation and I end up explaining and re explaining a story....is this good for me? To come home and be stressed from the conversation. I strive every day to boost my self esteem and lift myself up, so why am I going to a "tear me down" session. Thank you for posting, this answered a question for me today. These ladies I walk with, they don't have a program or know any better, but is is worth me going to a negative session every day?
Thanks for listening.

mercedes1959 · Senior Member

And to add to this, hoping all this makes some sense. I walked into my office today, yet another crises going on, someone asking for some documentation from a time period prior to my employment. I did not partake in the crises, I just sat down and did my job and thought to myself. This is like alcoholics and their drama, I don't have to have a crises as well. The new job is going to come, I am working towards that. Crises and drama are really not good for me.

mercedes1959 · Senior Member

I am enjoying the homemade potatoe soup my husband and I made yesterday, the break from the crises office workers.....:)

el-cee · ~*Service Worker*~

What is going on today, we all seem to be getting little messages from the weather!!! We are definitely connected even though were separated by the Atlantic Ocean. I loved your share Grateful, I felt the peace reading it. I dont often allow myself to go to that quite place and feel the peace, I get so distracted by so many things. I will try though because I know this feeling also when I allow myself to have it.x

mercedes1959 · Senior Member

grateful, I love your "wave" picture, so beautiful

wornoutmrsfixit · Senior Member

As a fellow peace loving, introverted, eye rolling news watcher whose home is her sanctuary, I so get your post. Love that feeling you're describing!

grateful2be · ~*Service Worker*~

Thank you, all. Loved the wisdom, the feedback, the additional metaphors, and the connections.

Special note to Mercedes. The photo of the wave is near Hawaii. Wouldn't we all love to be there about now?

neshema2 · ~*Service Worker*~

grateful2be wrote:
Thank you, all. Loved the wisdom, the feedback, the additional metaphors, and the connections.

Special note to Mercedes. The photo of the wave is near Hawaii. Wouldn't we all love to be there about now?

Hey G, i dont' even want to hear the news...I get an "outline" on my yahoo news, and the dallas AM news, but i don't "wallow" in it and on facebook??? show me bad stuff, negative stuff and I take off news feed or unfriend..........politics?? gone....bad news??? gone.......horror stories???? gone......

I run my neighborhood watch community, I will volunteer at the local animal shelter at some point this year , I am proactive in helping the children, animals, elderly and disabled, but don't tell me crap that happens in some far away state or country and I can't do anything to help......all the bad news purveyors??? off my newsfeed or unfriended.....tell me about stuff I can do something about or keep it to themselves....

I want my peace and i am very proactive in taking care of my physical and mental/emotional health...

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

What a lovely, lovely share! Makes me love you all the more! Thank you so very much for this. I am praying all the time for all those including animals, to be ok in this very scarey weather.

Please take care and prepare for no power etc. !!! um ok don't hit me but I sure hope that tree does not blow down...... love, debilyn ps send me a pic of you in your footed jammies!! you know the ones with the little pink pigs onem! oh wait those are mine! lol hugs

grateful2be · ~*Service Worker*~

Awwwww and then LOL! LOL! LOL! Debilyn: You are such an incredibly loving human being and you are also a surprise a minute. I just love how you do you!!!! (((D)))

Breakingfree · ~*Service Worker*~

Hey I have pink footed jammies, haha!

mercedes1959 · Senior Member

@grateful, I love Hawaii, right now settling to plan my next trip to the beach island at Puerto Rico....

Melly1248 · ~*Service Worker*~

I love the images...watching nature rage from a safe place is amazing!!

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