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Yesterday he started drinking around 8:30 am and stopped when he fell asleep or passed out.I never can tell.But when all was said and done he'd had 13-14 pints of beer at least.Today he's already up to 3 pints at least and it's only 9:30.So today isn't going to be any different then any other day he's not at work but this doesn't surprise me.It's just bothering me that these cases of beer he's buying are $20 per case.I can think of better things to do with that $$. Since Sunday he's spent at least $60 on booze.I say at least because I don't know how much he has stashed away in his car or barn and I don't know how much he drinks when he goes to his dad's....who just happened to call right now.Probably wants my husband,his son to come over and fix something for him....and drink.I hope he goes.Then I don't have to have him here.
Hi, Pixie: Welcome to MIP. Sending you lots of encouragement and support. I, too, didn't like being around my x when he was using - or even when he wasn't using after awhile. Al-Anon and other supports helped me find myself again and a life that I enjoy more often than not. Glad you're here. Keep coming back and attending Al-Anon meetings, too.
Thank you grateful2be cuz I really need to vent.I too am to the point where I don't want to be with my husband even when he's not drinking.But he usually is.I can't wait until he goes back to work which won't be until the Monday after New Years.One thing I have noticed about myself is the more he drinks and the madder I get I become more determind,more constructive even if it's just in doing something to the house or crafts.I think it takes my mind off him.
Happy New Year to you too!
Hi Pixie,
Seasons Greetings.
I can really relate to your awareness and the desire to get on with more constructive things. I've taken up tapestry and patchwork and it is a wonderful release when my mind is focused away from those nagging thoughts about AH. It has been a precious learning curve for me and helped me to realise that I was responsible for my own self esteem
I'm sorry that you have been experiencing the alcoholic behaviour of someone close to you, but admire your constructive self awareness.
Wishing you better for the New Year ((((hugs)))))
((((Pixie))))...I use to count (the drinks) also and then in Al-Anon I learned a real simple tool "Don't count...don't watch...self focus" and lo and behold the anxiety and stress got less and I found stuff I liked to do with the excess time. I use to cringe at the sound of a beer can opening or any carbonated can for that matter until I stopped. Don't wait for when he goes back to work to do things for yourself...do it now...in spite of his drinking...or eating...or breathing or just him. If you are not attending face to face meetings call the Al-Anon hotline in the white pages of your phone book and find out when the next meeting is. Keep coming back (((((hugs)))))
Thank you Jerry F. Counting the cans and keeping an eye out for how many he's had is more of a game for me.I usually only pay close attention when he has a major amount of time off work,vacation,Christmas,etc.I have many crafting hobbies and do sell things I make plus a mini zoo or farm to look after that keeps me very busy.I don't care what he does to himself any more.The amount of money he's putting into his beer does bother me.He complains he doesn't have money and should for the amount he makes.He has it but it goes into his addiction.I can't make it to meetings.There's one right in town just a few miles from me but it's in the evenings when he's home.I'd have to explain where I'm going and I won't fight with him about this.But what I do wonder is I know beer isn't as hard on a person as hard liquor so they say.So what does or what can 15 pints a day of beer do to a person from a medical stand point? He's not drinking that much when he's working but he's having about 5 pints on the days he is working.
