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by Toby Rice Drews was one of the first books I read when I first joined al-anon and Codependent No More by Melody Beattie was the second, I glanced through them both lately and still suggest these books to anyone dealing with an A and that likes to grow and dig into themselves and al-anon. The 3 daily readers also help keep me on track, Couraqge to Change, One Day at a Time and Hope for Today. These books helped me to understand myself and why I was the way I was and how I got there, which was half the battle. The other half was getting myself to the face to face meetings, finding my sponsor and realizing I was worth it and to put the work into myself through the steps when I discovered I was really deserving of so much more. Sending you all love and support on your journey!
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I ordered "Getting Them Sober" and my ABF broke up with me right as I sent the order to Amazon. I canceled the order but they had already shipped it. From what I understand, I should still read the book because it's actually working on yourself. It just made me feel like a fool though. Im ordering self help books and going to Al-Anon and on these forums every day. He's off not really caring about me, then breaking up with me right before Christmas because he's "no good" and "i cant do what i need to do for you as a partner". Then he called me 45 times in 3 days. Then I don't hear from him at all for 3 days. This disease has taken it's toll on me. I pray for peace and forgiveness for my own wrongs, i pray for peace for him as well. This time, I didnt call him to check on him. This time I just let him be. I guess some of the lessons are starting to sink in.
I had all the Al-anon books and got Getting Them Sober on the advice of CanadianGuy. I read it a lot. Also got Co-depend after that. Didn't help much. Another that helped me with mothers of A children was " Setting Boundaries with your Adult Children" and " Don't let your Kids Kill You"
Breamanic665. Al-anon with help you not him. Will let you look into yourself and become a better person for it. Give it a try.
There's no loss that you'll experience in reading the book, attending Al-Anon, being on MIP, and applying the steps, slogans and principles to your life. The war that was once waged on alcohol(ism) and the war on drugs(addiction) were lost. Al-Anon helps us look at ourselves and our lives through a much cleaner and sharper lens. All of us have been affected in some way by untreated alcoholism, and/or drug addiction, and codependency (ours or others). Perhaps your introduction to all of these program tools was your HP at work? Al-Anon helps us think and behave differently than we did before it. We learn to seek peace rather than to wage war on something that we are powerless to change, control or cure.
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I found reading GTS very helpful and enlightening, along with my Al-Anon literature, F2F meetings, and MIP.
For some reason I have had a hard time getting into Codependent No More by Melody Beattie, even though I have tried to read it several times. However, I do really like The Language of Letting Go daily meditation reader by her.
My new favorite is 'Boundaries' by Henry Cloud and John Townsend. Somehow it just puts things in much more concrete terms for me. Perhaps I found it at the right time, it seems to coalesce all the other all anon literature and Melody Beattie I have read.
I will get a copy of GTS, I nee to give it a read.
I just bought this yesterday; it is to arrive by Wednesday. Going on a beach weekend so will read it then. Can't wait.
Also bought THE DILEMMA OF THE ALCOHOLIC MARRIGE.
On someways I feel like I have a new addiction, figuring out what makes them tick, and what role I play in all that. :) Just kidding. I know I have to come at this intellectually, and not emotionally which is part of the problem. I do appreciate the tips as I look at all the books out available and wonder, "What is best?"
With four hours in car, and time on beach, I should be able to get a lot of reading done. I am sure my AH will love the topics of the books I am reading. lol!
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