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Gaby


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The night went well. A lot of my close friends know how I am feeling and what I am going through. I have such supportive people in my life.. I had fun and for a minute just put aside what I was going through. I'm up early and still no word. I say my serenity prayer and I know I am powerless and I know that my son had made a choice.. If I only had a phone call to just know that he is ok. I ask myself ?? Why isn't he calling? I would not rescue him but he knows I worry. I went to church before I went to my party. I prayed with so many there. And they have shared what they went through and what there bottom was. I know I have to take care of me. I am doing the best I can with how feeling..

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Good Work Gaby  

Know that "What you need to know" HP will make sure you know.

 Keep on praying and taking care of you 

Prayers from NY as wellsmile



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I am so glad the night went well for you...I loved that you began your post with that sentence.  Work your program and you will have more of these kinds of experiences!



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Gaby


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Thank you ladies..

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You are most welcomeaww



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Gaby~

I'm so glad to hear that your party went well!! And you were able to put yourself  first and have a little fun!!

The more we can let go, the more our HP can get in there and take care of things:)

I always say that things started to change in my life when I learned TO DUCK & GET OUT OF GODS WAY!

That is when he can get in there and do what I surely do not have the power to do:)

Have a great Sunday & thank you for sharing, we care:)

 



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Well done Gaby, Im so glad you went and let go for a while. Its hard but the alternative is pointless. I like what mimi says about HP can get in there to help your son and give him what he needs. Thanks for sharing.x

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Gaby, don't be hurt because he is not calling.....he is immersed in his addictions and you are the last thing he is thinking about he is  trying to survive with his addiction. ....og



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Well, a big hurrah for you, Gaby. Going to church and to the party - big steps towards living life on life's terms for you. The more practiced you become at focusing on you and on your life, the happier and healthier you will become. To quote a gal named Byron Katie: "If someone or something leaves your life - Congratulations! You've been spared." We can love our kids. We can pray for our kids. We can care what happens to our kids. That is natural. We can also get to the place where we really are tired of dealing with their self-created drama and love them from afar. There is a reading in C2C that often reminds me that if I don't want to get stung, I stay away from a hive.(Paraphrase) When my son's disease is doing what it does - the last place I want to be is around it. That isn't abandonment or neglect of my son. That is recognizing my need for peace and fruitful activity. Last night, you enjoyed a taste of peace and some fruitful activity for you. Keep doing more of that!

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I'm glad you were able to forget your sadness for a few hours. As you continue to live your own life and take care of yourself those times will happen more often.

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Good for you! Filling the time is great. YOu need love and support during this very hard time. Meetings are great too. There are ones right here on mip that are really good.

Your son knows what he is doing, he will take care of himself. Seems to be his choice to go out there. It's hard when they are not A's to let them go, and even then who knows what in the world they are doing.

My son finally got it in his brain to call mom and check in. I was always there for him if he was in trouble or whatever. He was making his own choices. He is 37 now, and still checks in. I made it clear to him it is NOT to interfere in his life and treat him like a baby. It was for ME. As I am a mom and I cannot help but be concerned!

I invite you to share that with him. That you understand he is an adult now, but you are still mom and YOU need him to check in, 

sending lots of hugs and prayers. Debilyn



-- Edited by Debilyn on Sunday 22nd of December 2013 07:43:10 PM

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So happy to hear you were not paralyzed in your worry, but decided to step out and live life in the heat of it, Keep up the great work! Sending you much love and support!

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Good for you.

One minute at a time, one hour at a time, one day at a time.

Dreams



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