just for today I'm okay - Al-Anon Family Group

texasgal · Senior Member

just for today I'm okay

SerenityRUS · ~*Service Worker*~

Big hugs Texasgal, I'm so sorry it came to that kind of physical violence. Please take care of yourself and take safety precautions. Being physically assaulted is a huge trauma and I hope you are able you find some counseling to help you deal with the hurt and pain. If you didn't file a report should anything happen please call the domestic violence hotline .. you should be supported and guided through the craziness that can go on. You are not alone. Hugs s :)

grateful2be · ~*Service Worker*~

I'm glad you are safe and keeping yourself out of harm's way. Are you in Al-Anon? Do you have a sponsor?

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Welcome back texasgal

I am so sorry to read of your pain and sadness. The heart cannot be explained "It wants what it wants". I am glad that you are taking care of yourself and are safe.

Keep on showing up for yourself ODAT. Use the ideas in the "Just for Today" Alanon Bookmark and you will continue to "feel" the serenity, courage and wisdom of recovery

You are very brave

deacon · Senior Member

Texas gal, it is ok to love him-as Betty says the heart will do as it wants to. The important thing though is that you have to learn to love yourself more. He has his journey to follow, you have your's and taking care of yourself is the first thing on your agenda. Find some meetings so that you can talk through your feelings and guard your own safety. It does not matter how much the disease has hold of him, there is no excuse whatsoever for him laying a hand on you.

PP · ~*Service Worker*~

Welcome back, sweetie...stay close. You did not deserve the physical violence and you did not cause it. I am sorry.

oldergal · Senior Member

So many times we stay "in love" with the IDEA of what was and what could have been....he is not the same person anymore. You have grown and he has not....save your beautiful ideas and thoughts for your next relationship. .....og

maryjane · ~*Service Worker*~

I always felt guilty that I was "stepping away" and that I should not detach and stay as involved as I used to be. Then it was pointed out to me that he had "stepped away" a long time ago and I was just trying to keep something that only really lived in my memory. I had no more responsibility toward that old relationship.

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

I invite you to find a domestic violence support group! I am proud of you for being strong and leaving.

Honey my experience is I love the person not the behavior. You love him as a person. I am sure there are a bunch of wonderful things about him. But his behavior is very, very dangerous.

I too was abused by my exA and got him the heck outa there. I never stopped loving him. Used to pray and pray NOT to love him anymore. Then realized I loved the man I knew inside, that this monster was the disease, not him.

For me my exA is dead.

I hope you can accept the fact that you love him, and be kind to you. You are a very loving person, thats a good thing. Being bitter only eats us up.

hugz, debilyn

Breakingfree · ~*Service Worker*~

I can relate and am so glad to hear you found a way to get out on your own. Please try to make it to as many face to face al-anon meetings that you can get to, find a sponsor if you don't have one and dive in and read everything al-anon you can find. I look back and I grew soo much in the time I left my exAh and found al-anon until now. I am a different stronger me and I love it! Sending you much love and support on your journey!

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