hard time despite all christmas cheer - Al-Anon Family Group

Theoceancalls · Senior Member

hard time despite all christmas cheer

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Dear theoceancalls

I hear you and understand. This disease certainly does "Suck the life" out of us. That is what alanon meetings, the Steps and slogans were designed to overcome.

There have been many years where I had to "Act as if" to get through the Holidays.

Try to know you are not alone. Read your daily readers each day, focus on yourself , making sure you do not get too hungry , angry, lonely or tired. Listen to Holiday music and attend some additional meetings, This should all help to lift the anxiety and bring some peace.

Prayers for your peace.

grateful2be · ~*Service Worker*~

Prayers, TOC.

PP · ~*Service Worker*~

Don't let it suck the life out of you...work your program....prayers.

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

Oh hon that is how the disease makes us sooo sick. The A is in a pit and trying to drag us in. Sounds like you are in deep. Been to meetings?

I know your heart broke when your daughter said that.

Remember daddy is very sick. When people use their emotions are pretty much dormant and numb. I know when I am on pain meds My emotions are dulled. That is what makes me not take them much.

It's a horrible thought to think of leaving at all. I remember so clearly thinking of my first A leaving. Still hurts me though he died many years ago. I hated the thought of our kids daddy not being with us. Plus I loved him so much.

For me it was for my babies safety. He had driven drunk with them.

If you can, get to meetings, as many as you can, come here. Read Getting Them Sober volume one. Also I know for me, I would be proactive and think about and even keep a journal about if I did decide to leave or have him leave how and what would I need to do. It takes some of the fear away and it helps keep you focused.

I am concerned about you. I have always kept in close touch with my doctor too. Depression is very debilitating and can be dangerous.

Keep coming, we have meetings here too! love,debilyn

Theoceancalls · Senior Member

thank you all for your time and compassion. i was so so depressed and anxious last night. my heart goes from being broken to.being as hard ad ice. i go from being worried theres another woman on top of the alcohol, to not caring one bit to then full bliwn panic. i did at leadt sleep well after my typo filled post last night. and today wad filled with me time with my daughter. . all nice and God willing tomorrow is planned for similar. in terms of me, i do.see a therapist and i have meds to.help.my anxiety. i strughle with iopening up.ALL the way to.therapist. . its dark and scary to face some of that stuff. . the stuff thst goes with living with an.active alcoholic

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

HI TOC

I am glad that you are feeling better and took care of yourself today . Good work. Living with the disease of alcoholism is so very painful. We become isolated and our thinking become distorted by trying to force solutions. That is why it is so important to share our truth and connect with others who understand as few others can. Meetings both Face to Face and on line are powerful tools of recovery. Sharing lifts the denial (as you know) and gives us the opportunity to allow constructive ideas to enter the wall of fear that surrounds us

You are working hard to recover yourself so please keep coming back and sharing. You are worth it.

ilovedogs · ~*Service Worker*~

Keep taking care of you, you are doing well and we all know those feelings: up then down then all around. I'm not in the holiday spirit either, you are not alone! HUGS!!

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