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Just a reminder of the meaning of Codependent...it was helpful for me...just wanted to share....og
Codependency is defined as a psychological condition or a relationship in which a person is controlled or manipulated by another who is affected with a pathological condition (typically narcissism or drug addiction); and in broader terms, it refers to the dependence on the needs of, or control of, another.[1] It also often involves placing a lower priority on one's own needs, while being excessively preoccupied with the needs of others.[2] Codependency can occur in any type of relationship, including family, work, friendship, and also romantic, peer or community relationships.[2] Codependency may also be characterized by denial, low self-esteem, excessive compliance, or control patterns.[2] Narcissists are considered to be natural magnets for the codependent.
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A good topic. In some more traditional Alanon groups I know of codependency is a taboo topic. IMO is always existed in our programme before Coda was identified as such. In our group ending it says: "we tried to force solutions and became tired and irritable without knowing it". Certainly being tired and irritable for lengthy periods is a terrible experience.
I think the term co-dependent came from a treatment model. It was acknowledged that often the family member can be emotionally sicker than the alcoholic. I think that if we look at the similarities, and not the differences our modern understanding of codependency can add a lot to recovery.
Thank you for the share OG, I am in recovery for codependency, it fits me!
same here....i would think that most alanoners are coda in some respect or another....it would have to be ...our patterns (putting up w/the unacceptable , sometimes, treatment by A's) have to go back to our child hood...that is why when i sponsor someone I am heavy on the steps and inner child/family of origin work.....the roots are in the ground...not up in the branches.....and one must get to the root of the sickness to treat it......if a tree is to bear healthy fruit, its ROOTS have to be healthy........Just sayin
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