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cwya · Senior Member

Nutso boss

grateful2be · ~*Service Worker*~

Doesn't sound like a match, cwya. I worked in a temporary agency for 1 month as a head hunter. Something about the job and the boss really bugged me. I did what I was supposed to do, but always felt yukky about it. I just didn't know why. My job was simply to line up employers and try to match people with the employer. Yet, something just bugged me. About a month after I started, I walked into the boss' office and told him I just couldn't continue working there. I had two kids to support, but I still quit. I just didn't really know why. About a month later the boss was arrested for illegal activity and went to prison. The office was raided. I was out of there before any of that happened. Sometimes, my HP warns me in ways I just don't fully understand. I just follow what I know deep down is guidance. I don't have to understand it or figure out what's going on. I just have to follow the guidance. Keep us posted, cwya.

lgnutah · Senior Member

Are you one of my co-workers? I am kidding, of course, but as I read this I thought this sounds like the new boss at my office. If there were lots of jobs available, there would be a mass exodus out of my office.
I think each of us has to decide whether a job provides more benefits ( not just salary, but intrinsic rewards from the job itself) than the negatives younexperience from having tomdeal with your boss.

cwya · Senior Member

Thank you guys. That makes so much sense. I would adore the actual job--If only she didn't work there! What is your experience on employee evals? I've usually been the boss so don't have a lot of experience with them. Is it usual to have a formal written evaluation so soon or to expect a month to be enough to learn a new computer system? See I'm losing all perspective.

grateful2be · ~*Service Worker*~

Don't know, CWYA. It's been many years since I've worked for somebody else. I don't have any e/s/h on that one.

texas yankee · Senior Member

Are you working in a company where there's a HR department? If so, you might consider going to HR and making them aware of this abusive situation.

DO you have a prior track record at other companies - if so, you could use an "I've always been successful in previous jobs" argument to make your case that your boss is abusive.

In a similar situation years ago, I made it a point to take a notepad into ANY conversation with my boss so that I'd have a crystal clear record of what, exactly, she told me to do - I also did this so she'd know that I had a crystal clear record of what, exactly, she told me to do - in case she changed her mind and tried to make me look stupid.

cwya · Senior Member

Nope, no HR--she's it in her little non-profit fiefdom. I tried the written proof. This is what sent her into her tizzy when I told her I had done what she had asked me to do. There's only a very small staff. I'm an old Midwestern farm girl who was taught that real work didn't start until after the livestock was fed, milked, turned out and the eggs for breakfast collected. If I worked less than 10 hours a day I was a slacker. So now I am now an old slacker and kind of messed up physically and emotionally so I don't consider myself a prize employee or anything, but still I deserve to be treated with kindness and respect even if I'm not a spring chicken anymore. I think she expects more from me than I am capable of. But it is pretty clear I'm a long way from 40 in many ways so I'm not sure why she hired me.

wornoutmrsfixit · Senior Member

I know exactly what you are going through. I quit a good paying job in March with a female attorney who treated her employees with zero respect. This was at a time when things were at their worst with my AH and between her and him, I felt like the majority of my day was spent being beaten down. Two months later, I found a great job that I love and am working with people that are wonderful to be around. The only downside is that it doesn't pay as well but I am so much happier. Take care!

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

Maybe start looking for another job before you resign this one?

Is your situation such you can resign until you find something appropriate? I told my kids from the time they were little, always like your job. Don't come home saying I hate my job. Of course we all gripe even about a good job, same as sometimes we want to bury our teenagers until they are 23, we don't mean it.

I also told my kids, do not accept disrespect, we need to respect ourselves enough not to take it. If someone does not like it, that is their problem.

I stood up to so many in the eighteen years in the school system. I did not put up with any bs. as far as evals, that is ONE persons opinion. Plus you can always write a rebuttle.

We have to be true to ourselves and our values. YOu know you are doing your best, you know you are not slacking. That is what matters. Myself I would have instantly said the first time she had the nerve to go off on me,"Hey I deserve respect,I expect to be treated in a mature appropriate manner!" She may be tired of milktoast people she can push around, who knows. I would rather pick up dog pooh than deal with a person like that.

Hey there are tons of jobs we can do on our own and make money. I did pet care in peoples home and mine, yardwork, homesat, made meals for people, whatever I was a widow and raised two kids!

Believe in yourself. Learn to love yourself. YOU deserve to be loved, start by loving YOU.

hugz,debilyn

ps. I boarded ONE cat and made three hundred a month! Made four hundred the month before.

cwya · Senior Member

thanks all. Had to laugh at the dog poo reference. I feel like the perils of Pauline today. We had subzero temps last night so the little key fob button wouldn't open my locked car doors when I accidentally locked the metal key inside. She of course was angry when I asked if my co-worker could bring me my spare key so I wouldn't be another hour longer getting to work where I actually had to pick up dirty diapers to go to the dumpster that were frozen into rocks inside the diaper pail! Guess that was my fault too! LOL..............Thanks for the great moral support! I'm quitting as soon as I find another job. Tough in a town of 13k in a bad economy but maybe I'm supposed to do something else....like learn some discipline in my writing!

cwya · Senior Member

I'd certainly work for less to avoid another one of her!

grateful2be · ~*Service Worker*~

Maybe the next job will pay even more?

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