is what is best for the common group staying in my own sandbox - Al-Anon Family Group

neshema2 · ~*Service Worker*~

is what is best for the common group staying in my own sandbox

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Neshema

I think that John's post was a call to each of us to consider alanon principles when we respond to each other.

You mentioned the First Tradition in your Heading regarding "Common Welfare" I believe the 5 th Tradition sums up the healthy purpose of alanon and could be considered when we respond to another

"Each Alanon Family Group has but one purpose,to help families of alcoholics We do this by practicing the 12 Steps of AA ourselves, by encouraging and understanding our alcoholic relatives and by welcoming and giving comfort to family of alcoholics.

. The program is built on the principle of restoring each member's self esteem and , self confidence and so that they can recover from the devastation of this dreadful disease. I know that giving comfort takes many forms. Placing principles above personalities, is so important so that I can adhere to the philosophy of not giving advise The ODAT states: "To give advise to another is to intrude to , to give advise to myself is to grow ."

I think you have given us all food for thought

-- Edited by hotrod on Monday 9th of December 2013 11:27:51 AM

PP · ~*Service Worker*~

(((N))) I enjoy your tell it like it is way of being. I agree with Melly and Betty, that your post, resulting in John's response and them Melly's response has given me food for thought. I don't have time, right now, to share all that has bubbled up within me. I appreciate when my stuff is activated to I can look at it..it helps me to transform. So, I am saying thank you to you, Melly and John.

el-cee · ~*Service Worker*~

Hi Neshema, I responded to John's post but I hadn't read the other posts, I took John's post personally. I do think this type of thing is good for any group. Its like a group conscious meeting, where we can think about what we are here for and a reminder of the traditions and principles. I think there is value in all posts, were all just learning after all. Not one of is a finished super alanoner. I dont think you should take your replys personally, in my experience its the heading that gets people in to look at your post and Im guilty of it too. If the heading looks like I could relate then I will look at the post, sometimes though, I dont have much time to come on and Im sure many people are the same.
Anyway, you are part of this fellowship and you cant be perfect with perfect feedback, you are going to mess up like everyone else. I also, respond well to tough love even though I may not like it at the time, I also respond well to softly softly, I suppose it depends on me and my posts are like that too. If I am working my program well then my esh tends to be detached and well thought out but if Im feeling off I can be a bit hit or miss too and its a reflection of me.
Take what you like and leave the rest is a great slogan, it allows us to take the parts we want to take. Keep on keeping on Neshema!!!!

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