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ALotToLearn


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After 20+ years of having a sober father, I am now watching him slip into his old ways. Along with watching him slip I am watching my mom in turn to her old ways of enabling him. This time around, they are ultimately shutting me and my older siblings out. Most of our phone calls are not answered, excuses are made as to why they don't want company, etc.  Years ago when he was drinking so much, and I was just 15 mom would leave me home alone for weeks at a time while she went on the road with him.  I felt alone, rejected, ashamed. Here I am at 48 years old feeling the same.

It is quite apparent that I have a lot of work to do. Where to begin....



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Jill


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If someone else's drinking is a problem for you, Al-Anon is an excellent place to begin. Welcome.
There are face-to-face meetings near you, and there are online meetings here. You didn't say whether you attend Al-Anon meetings. In case you don't, you will find understanding and growth by attending meetings. They're free. You can regain your peace, regardless of someone else's behavior. I found that such a gift! Still do.
And yes, I know what you're talking about with being completely grown and thrown back into childhood feelings. Many of us know that one.
Keep coming back.

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ALotToLearn


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I found this site last night, and this evenings online meeting is the first of any sort I have attended. I found a list of my local face-to-face meetings and plan on going. I am looking forward to finding some clarity.

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grateful2be


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Welcome to MIP. Going to meetings will be a big help to you. Please come back here, too. You're not alone.

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rehprof


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welcome!

this is a wonderful and supportive community of people. Sometimes people are blunt...but please, if that happens, don't let it scare you away...just take what makes sense to you, and leave the rest.

Lots of good ACOA (adult child of alcoholic) literature out there...in addition to alanon resources. 

Keep coming back, 

RP



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Welcome....I agree with all of what has already been posted and I am glad you have discovered this forum and the tools of al anon.  Keep sharing, we listen and learnaww



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