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As hard as it was.. With a grace of god and many prayers.. I got through Thanksgiving. I hurt so bad for my son. I love him dearly and I know the only thing I can do is pray for him. Today he is to be out if my house. I don't know if that is going to happen. I have heard he is looking into some SLE homes. But he has to do the work. Thank you all for support..
Glad to hear your Holiday was drama free. The are many of us on here who know first hand how your heart is breaking about your son. We told our AD to leave (and she took our only grandson with her) in June. You are right, the only thing to do is to offer him up to his HP and keep praying for him. Remember, it is the disease , not his upbringing, that brought him to the situation he is in now. Keep coming back, reach out to your sponsor and get to as many meetings as you can. I was a walking zombie until a few weeks ago when I really came to believe that I really deserve my own life.
I too got through the day. After dinner I just couldn't sit around so I convinced my sister to go to the casino with me. I won 1600 dollars so that's cool, Now I have money to gamble some more.
My son called again this morning. He is going into surgery today so he should be a lot better soon. Not sure how long they will be keeping him but he asked to come stay with me. I said he couldn't..... Tough one to say but I had to.
Have been reading One Day at a Time passages this morning so it has helped me keep in the moment.
Gaby.....you can say there is hope if your son is still looking into SLE places. Just like my son getting himself to the hospital. There is hope if we let go let God...and give them the respect and strength to do it on their own if that's what they want.
(((( hugs ))))
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Lord, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth
Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your silence.
Thank you for the update, Gaby. I know that tough love is difficult. One of the things that helped me when I was going back and forth on what to do in relationship to my son was something I learned in Al-Anon. The ODAT method of discerning what my HP's will was for me. If I had the opportunity, the desire, the ability and the time to do something it was probably God's will for me to do it. If one of the 4 letters was missing, it was probably not my HP's will for me. Maybe what helped me will help you at times?
