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I kept getting a call starting every early this morning. I finally answered. It was my son. He is in the hospital and they are going to be operating on his leg tomorrow. He has been in for about a week now with a very bad infection. He said he is bored. He doesn't have his phone or IPOD he telling me You would think he would be a little worried about his health. I didn't say much because there is nothing I can do... I just pray for him.
It's very sad and I'm crying a little but I will get over it because it is what it is and it will progress I'm sure. I have to take care of me.
He wants me to called him later if possible but he had to go because the nurse came in....
Will have all of you in my prayers at the dinner table today and please keep my son in yours..
(((( hugs ))))
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Lord, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth
Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your silence.
Cathy: I'm sorry that today you are greeted with some hard news about your son's health. Fortunately, he is in the hospital and receiving treatment that you couldn't offer to him. There's nothing saying he isn't worried about his health? Boredom often covers up "the rest of the story." I'm glad he called you and that you answered the phone in this instance. He's where he needs to be. You're where you need to be. HP is with both of you. And I'm praying for all of you, too! He went to the hospital on his own. He is looking out for himself, Cathy. He can continue to look out for himself. You are also looking out for yourself. Glad you came on to post this update. Keep us posted, please. (((C and son)))
((((((((((((((((((Cathy)))))))))))))))))) I agree with Grateful...I am glad u answered the phone this time, even tho it was bad news
you needed this status even though it is not what anyone would want to hear, he at least is in hosp. receiving care
of course I will pray for you and him......remember...you didn't cause this...you cannot control this....you cannot cure this (speaking about his leg along w/the drinking).......he must take care of himself now as you are doing for you...................love and hugs
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Live and let live and do it with peace and goodwill to all!!!!
Cathy big hugs and prayers to you both. Little share .. the kids dad called them the last week of September it's the last time they heard from him. He explained to my oldest he was bored at work .. I swear if I could have virtually slapped him I would have done it twice. What a thing to say after being mia for 2 1/2 months now another 2 1/2 months have passed .. Halloween, first big dance, and now thanksgiving. I do wonder if they will get the obligatory call today. A's are so self absorbed they don't even understand our comprehend the pain they cause those around them. Something that helped me today I went to an open AA meeting and someone said when I got to AA I was dripping in shame. I can get that ... I can't imagine coming into AA an active A and Getting sober then having to face loved ones. It has to be a combination of humbling and humiliating. At least for today I can look at the kids dad smh and think I'm so very glad I don't have to walk that particular path. Hugs s :)
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Faith minus vulnerability and mystery equals extremism. If you've got all the answers, then don't call what you do "faith". - Brene Brown
"Whatever truth you own doesn't own you" - Gary John Bishop
I'm still in my PJ's I wish I didn't hear from my son but I did. Now I'm not doing so well. My sister and her husband are arguing and I'm just sitting here in a daze. What a lovely day it's going to be. If my sister and husband get drunk again today I think I will just leave and go home.
I'm think about how bad is my son that he is needing surgery?
Internet in and out....phone in and out.....
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Lord, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth
Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your silence.
(((Cathy)))
Do what you need to do for you.
In my prayers ;)
I have allowed my A to come and go to have a place to sleep...not necessarily what most would agree would be the right thing to do. It is today for me.
C, as they say, "You can pick your friends but you can't pick your relatives"..! You have choices Cathy, you can leave if you want to and no one would blame you except your sister maybe, and you can tell her the truth, that your son is in the hospital. Another idea is that possibly you can call the hospital and try to find out how serious it really is. At any rate, how did he get to this point, my guess is he was not taking care of himself and possibly not cleaning a wound. If you are coming out of a drunk, care and cleanliness for your body is not on your priority, a drink is more like it. I can't tell you what to do, but think real hard before you make a move, ask your self, is the disease pulling on your heartstrings? and is the disease manipulating you? Do you have to drive home or can you take a little side trip, something not far, or maybe an overnighter....Many prayers coming your way...strength in your decisions and choices...og
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Don't Worry About Growing Old, It Is A Privilege For Some Of Us.....
I'm not going to leave. I will stay here. My sister is doing better because my son in law went down to his shop to fiddle around for a while. We are cooking and talking. I am trying to keep my mind off my son. He is sick because of his disease. Yes he didn't take care of himself. I don't think the hospital will give me any information because privacy issues I'm sure. Its just a sad state and I'm sad about it.
This too shall pass like everything else. My son is just as sad as me I'm guessing because nobody is there for him now.
My choice is to stay put.....
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Lord, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth
Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your silence.
