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As Thanksgiving and Christmas roll around I am so happy I live a distance away from all or most of my family of origin. Not to mention I have a hard time celebrating the genocide of the American Indian. I appreciate my friends and children on a regular basis and am thankful for them all the time. I remember back to my marriage and feeling so out of control, 15 years of trying to be super wife making all of the meal all by myself, no I did not need help, I had the in laws just bring a dessert and no one really offered to help anyway. Now the last 3 years on my own and 2 years I have not cooked a thing, very relaxing. No expectations of anyone and really I would not be going by the exAH and his family this year if my 5 year old wasn't fininshing out this school year by him. He is sober and they are doing really well together. I sent her by him almost 2 weeks ago and I don't regret it.
I do have to step up my program, since she is up there and he is my exAH it triggers me to worry about how long he can stay sober this time, but honestly this is the healthiest I have been with Al-anon and dettaching. My 15 year old and I talk with my little one daily and her grandparents and my friends that work in the school she is attending. I know things are going better for her there then they were here. I made the decision and it was the hardest unselfish one I have ever made. So this Thanksgiving I am choosing to go and see the exAH for dinner to get time with my lil person and so I am uppping my program before I get there. I know I don't post much anymore, it is hard with school, but I come here and read regularly. So just wanted everyone to know I am alive and this is what is going on with me. Sending you all love and support on your journey's!
-- Edited by Breakingfree on Wednesday 27th of November 2013 07:31:32 PM
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Thank you for the update, BF, and for letting us know how you are. I'm so used to seeing you on the board sending love and support, I also notice when you're not on the board sending love and support. I certainly understand all the school pressures for you. Thanks again for coming on and saying hello! Please keep coming back when you can. Sending you love and support as you do me and others. (((B)))
Breakingfree, Im glad you had the courage to do what you felt was right, I know how hard this decision must have been and how you had a hard time making it. Your daughter is with her Father and although he is an A there were times I wished my A had taken my youngest even to build the bonds back up again. He never did and I also asked him but he wouldnt take him and their relationship suffered and now he is 16 and they are not as close as they once were.
Im in Scotland so we don't do the whole thanksgiving thing but I often wondered about it in terms of the Native Americans. I know we in the Uk dont have a great history either, imperialism and colonialism seem so wrong today. Anyway, good to hear from you and enjoy your day.x
