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Last night in my F2F meeting our topic was what we learned about trust in our childhoods. Well what I learned was to "trust" people that abused me and let me down. And I have carried this all through my life, including my current A spouse. I think everyone I have been close to has hurt me and/or let me down. I know I have hurt my son and I'm sure my A would say I have hurt her. Back to trust, I don't trust anyone right now, and I feel OK about that! Maybe it's not meant to be or just too difficult. I told my group though that I do trust alanon to help me because it already is. And I care very much about my meeting, my online group here, and my sponsor. So maybe this is a step towards trusting. Happy Thanksgiving to all, Lyne
We're all fragile creatures, Lyne, with gifts and limits. People will always disappoint us. We will always disappoint others. And, we can be grateful for the progress we make in letting HP be enough. I'm glad you're accepting of how you are thinking and feeling today. Happy Thanksgiving to you, too, Lyne.
I see what you mean, I think I may be the same. Trusting the wrong people who use you and it also gives us the impression that trustworthiness is unimportant in ourselves. I too trust Alanon, in some ways I feel like Im readjusting my thinking from my childhood, im kind of bringing myself up with the good stuff which is cancelling out the bad slowly but surely. I am trying hard not to trust because even now I can still easily get suckered with lies, Im getting better though. Thanks for sharing.x
