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Cathyinaz


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Good Morning all

Today is the day for packing up my things and get ready to take my little vacation to visit my sister.  I'm a little anxious but at the same time excited to be going.  I have never left others during a holiday to go somewhere by myself.  Yes I"M GOING....

I leave tomorrow morning for a week of fun and getting some information from my sister.  I want to know more about my dad because I have unanswered questions.  She is older than me and she might know things I didn't know....like drinking.  I have to know about my dad's anger towards me....I just can't remember or don't want to.  My mom was not there.  She passed away when I was 8 yo. 

I'm also feeling bad about leaving my son alone but he does have his father if he wants.  This feeling will pass.

I will have access to MIP while gone so I will send a pic or two of where I'm at 

OK I'm getting more excited  letting all my MIP friends know. Your all the best

((( hugs )))

 

 



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deacon


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It's long past the time you should be doing something for yourself Cathy! Getting away from stresses is so good for the soul. And it sounds as if you are going to investigate past grievances and get to the bottom of them I really hope you have a peaceful and rewarding holiday, putting yourself first and letting go. Even if your sister has nothing to add to your knowledge, just the doing is worth it

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Yay (((Cathy))) Have an awesome time!!!

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Have a grand  Visit Cathy

Do not stuff yourself smile hungry.gif



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I'm incredibly thrilled for you! Have a wonderful time! My mom sent me a text from the airport and I laughed as if you knew my mom she never is spontaneous .. not with traveling .. I am .. her not so much lol. She was flying to a friend's out of state. It made me feel good that she did something to take care of herself! I'm just so so happy that you are going! Safe journeys and enjoy! :)

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Cathyinaz


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Thanks everyone....I would have not done this a year ago.

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I am so glad you are still going! Good, good for you! Glad you'll be sending us pictures and spending time with your sister doing things you like to do and maybe learning things you'd like to know. If you make a lot of money playing slots, please don't forget your MIP family when you're rich and famous. :<)

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Melly1248


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And yes DO post pics of you having a good time I bet that would give all of us a reason to smile.

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It's time to do something for yourself. You will come back feeling refreshed. Have a wonderful visit with your sister!

(((hugs)))

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Have a lovely time Cathy.x

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neshema2


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I'm also feeling bad about leaving my son alone but he does have his father if he wants.  This feeling will pass.

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OK....Tell me u r not going to drag and guilt  re: son with you.....this is for YOU.....YOUR vacation time....YOUR fun visit w/your sister.......go free and  enjoy visit free and NO dragging any negativity to it...when son comes to mind?? thank HP for looking after him as you know and accept that you are powerless over ALL things,  you are even powerless over your own problems that you need HP for, so if you have to work step one over you on a regular basis, isn't that proof that you for SURE are powerless over another

I am powerless over my codependency , I am powerless over my unhealthy patters that are fighting me big time b/c i am reahing out to HP for change......i am powerless but  HP is not.....if caring for me requires diligence and all  i got AND my giving over to HP...I KNOW i cannot control another

we try to control others out of a fear....fear .....being powerless is scary, so we get fearful and we try to control to give us illusion of being in control, having that power, but its all BS....i am powerless over all things but me....and even re: me....I am powerless over these stubborn patterns i am trying to get rid of

ENJOY YOUR VACATION..........and don't bring any sad stuff along.......if you stay in the present w/big sis, you won't be looking back towards your son...........let him go....and keep letting him go



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Cathyinaz


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I will neshema.... I will

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Have a wonderful time!

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good for you! Your cat must be ok!

Hey always pay attention to where you are, how things smell, sound, touch listen! Put yourself in each moment. I dare ya to put everything back home in HP's hands! (C:

Most important don't forget to bring me a present. hahahahhaha hugz friend, debilyn



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A whole week !!! Wow that is great. Enjoy Cathy, and maybe you will even get some perspective... !

Take care, and win big! Through a quarter in one of those slots for me.... in total support of this... og Hope you will be way out of range !



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Have a Wonderful and Save Trip and just enjoy yourself! {{{Hugs}}}

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Cathyinaz


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I want to wish everyone a grateful and blessed Thanksgiving Holiday.

((( BIG huGS )))


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Mahalo for the Thanksgiving wish Cathy...pack your program and your smile and remember you're not alone, your HP and the rests of our spirits are there.  (((hugs)))smile



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Sweet Stanley


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Happy Thanksgiving Cathy!  Enjoy your week and know your son is in God's hands.



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Look at how many posted here to wish you well!  Enjoy, enjoy, enjoy and enjoy some moreaww



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neshema2


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Cathyinaz wrote:

I want to wish everyone a grateful and blessed Thanksgiving Holiday.

((( BIG huGS )))

 you too, (((((Cathy)))))   ENJOY!!!!!!!!!



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You deserve it, have a great time!!!!!!

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Isn't it so cool that today you can put your big girl panties on, and go out on your own?  Independent Empowerment allows us to do so much we would never have imaged.

Hope you have a absolutely great time!

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