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Well my son and I have had very little communication. I know he is in a dark place. I have to fully surrender and give god his child that he blessed me with. I pray and pray and have hope my son gets back on the saddle to sobriety.. I truly have to take care of me. I am praying for strength .. I can't do no more for my son. It's his life and he has asked he to stop calling him or texting him. So I will respect that as I pray to except it also. Thanksgiving is coming up and I am praying for strength to get me through as well as god to watch over my son.
I am glad you are taking care of you. Your no good to your son if you don't. Prayer, meetings and reading is very helpful and keeping your mind off your son.
Respect his decision asking you not to contact him right now. I'm sure he has a lot on his plate right now. I used to nag my son that he told me one time I am drivinghim to drink....excuse I know but I thought about it and I wouldn't want somebody always in my face when I wanted to be alone. :)
Keep us close and don't isolate. Prayer are with you and your son
((( hugs )))
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Lord, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth
Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your silence.
Hi Gaby- change the word "son" to "daughter" and I could have posted exactly what you wrote, word for word. I, took am giving this to my HP right now. I am so worried about my AD, but she is an adult and I need to give her the grace to figure things out on her own. Standing with you in support and hope for today, and for the weeks ahead.
Our AD told us never to contact her again back in September; that we were dead to her. We have had no contact with her since Sept 16, our other daughter will not speak of her to us. I have no idea if she is dead or alive or where our grandson is living now. I am trying to live in the moment and not giving much thought about the holidays. The season can not be over any too soon for me. But I am trying not to wallow in it, just accepting what is and trying not to rewind in my mind holidays as they never werefor us. Always a season of big drama.
Step up your meetings, be nice to yourself. You are not alone in this.
I'm so happy to have you all.. I know we all need so much support and we are not alone. My son has isolated himself and yes I'll respect leaving him alone. It tears me up inside. But I also have an 8 year old daughter that needs me to and I am sure one day (well I pray) that my son gets it together and gets back into recovery. I love him but I can't do no more until he is ready. I pray for me to get through all this. It just kills me that he knows he has a problem he admits it but I'm the one person he pushes away. I pray I never get that phone call. But I have to say if (god forbid) if I ever do. I can not take blame. It would hurt me so much but I can not take blame. I have reached out and I never gave up. Today I pray for strength and hope. I will not give up the faith I have in god for my son..
I have not spent Thanksgiving with my son for many years. I know how that feels. He chose to use drugs and drink. That put a wall in place for us. His choice. Praying for him and tending to my needs and to the needs of my family who were present to me helped me make it through those holiday times of separation. Sending you lots of peace and comfort, Gaby.
