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((((Jenny)))) if you can find yourself living in the moment only your mind will have less permission to wander into the future. I just read El-Cees plan for herself for her situation with her son and I will do that myself...read her share and see if it works for you also. ((((hugs))))
-- Edited by Jerry F on Sunday 24th of November 2013 02:32:07 AM
Hi...this is my first post here. I haven't been to a meeting in awhile...cause I'm sooo good at detachment when my alcoholic is practicing sobriety....just kidding/poking fun at myself....I've needed to go and have let it slide. I'm currently out of town and my husband stayed home to take care of the animals etc....his behavior and communication has me suspecting relapse, which I have a plan for when I get back, this time will mean a split and a move for me anratherkids....all that is hard but will be ok....the reason I'm seeking support here is that I'm really struggling to stay here in the momentvisiting family, going to a funeral....etc. my rat brain is spinning with how to figure out if he's relapsing.....(doesn't matter, I'll know soon enough) and then spinning out the possibilities of what will happen...might happen....should happen..howthings might go down......sigh...I really wanna be present here and just let things play out how they will...I'd love slogans, advice, just kind oughtsif anyone reads this and has the time. Jenny
Hello Jenny , what can you do if he is relapsing ? Please go back to meetings fast you need support . this is called alcoholism not alcoholwasm . You say his behavior sounds like relapse , it could be dry drunk a chemical reaction that just happens , they don't even realize what is going on . My husb has had several of these * of course he says he hasn't * so I don't push the issue . he acts like sounds like even walks like he did when drinking but is completely sober . It too will pass . Just my opinion Louise
I recently learned this trickto stomp your feet or shake your hands. As if you were trying to fling water off of them you know. This is to remind us that we are in the present moment. I also try to put my faith in my higher power and remind myself that even If I do NOT plan everything out (control) to a T that it WILL all work outit will..it has to, right? There is nothing you can change, it is what it is..so live in the moment and pay attention to what is important to you at that moment. you will have time to deal with the future thenin the future.
I find that concentrating on what I can focus on in the room where I am helps me. I see the coffee table. It is a rich, dark brown color with an intriguing shape. It holds a picture of my grandson, an icon, two cherubs, a candle, a polka dot match holder complete with matches, a colorful bowl on "legs" shaped like balls, a pansy ash tray. I notice my cat, Holly, sitting on a soft snowflake blanket atop a chaise lounger. The furnace is whirring and the fan motor pushes warm air in the room. I feel uncomfortable. I notice one leg over the other. I place that foot and leg firmly on the floor to match the other. I notice that the laptop keys are smooth to my fingertips' touch. My couch is crowded with books, my purse, even my coat that I threw on it when I got home. I'm going to unclutter the couch and hang up my coat.
