The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I've been feeling cranky all week, reaching a point where I felt completely down in the dumps. Thanks to lots of reading, mostly here, it was at least an opportunity to see my grizzly thinking in action Then in an effort to feel a bit more positive about myself I suggested doing a lunch for a friend who is 50 next week. AH said that he doesn't think that he could cope with a lunch party at our home. I can see his point, but it made me feel as though I can't even invite friends to my home any more (a feeling that I am resolved to ignore!).
This evening I got an email from a friend to thank me for an introduction that I made a few months ago - the result of which was the raising of $6,000 for a very special zoo. Yippeee!
And then another email came in from a girlfriend down the valley who is letting me use her house to do the birthday lunch. Thank you so much dear friend.
It might be a codependent thing - but to be honest I feel good when I can contribute and do something nice. So now the cranks have now flown the coop and, since I've been wanting to share my crankiness with you all week, I thought it might be nicer to share the positive stuff instead!
Thank you for sharing the crankiness and the warm fuzzies. I believe we are hardwired to want to contribute; when we contribute for the sheer joy of contributing it is not codependent. You sound like a good friend.
Then in an effort to feel a bit more positive about myself I suggested doing a lunch for a friend who is 50 next week. AH said that he doesn't think that he could cope with a lunch party at our home. I can see his point, but it made me feel as though I can't even invite friends to my home any more (a feeling that I am resolved to ignore!).
