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PP · ~*Service Worker*~

ESH, please

PP · ~*Service Worker*~

I would like prayers today for the strength to work my program while I watch my husband relapsing into his addictive thoughts. To my awareness, he has not picked up substances, but he has picked up the stinking thinking. He has his tools and I have mine. I know I cannot and will not do this alone....thank you all for your loving support so I don't rip him a new one.

el-cee · ~*Service Worker*~

Prayers to you PP.x

Jerry F · ~*Service Worker*~

Na Pule...Prayers from the Pacific Nation of Hawaii. Stand with your HP within the center of your spiritual program ((((hugs)))) smile

Mattie · ~*Service Worker*~

Your awareness is awesome, and your use of the tools. Sending you strength. Hang in there and take care of yourself. Is this a day to do something especially nice for youself?

DavidG · ~*Service Worker*~

smile Take care Paula... ...you deserve the best! aww

Cathyinaz · ~*Service Worker*~

I know you have all the tools to keep your serenity during this time of need. We love you PP and don't you ever forget it.

My prayers go out to you during this time and I pray your AH will also have to courage to overcome this before he relapses.

mm830 · Senior Member

Prayers and support for you.

SerenityRUS · ~*Service Worker*~

Hugs pp, sending you love and support. S ;)

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

wink ah put so eloquently! hugz.

Sadly this is relapse. Relapse is more than just using. The relapse happens from the bad thinking, the mouthy stuff, not sticking to their program of sobriety they have set up, being selfish, only thinking of what they want and need.

Its ok to be real with him too. We don't have to be mean, or angry. We can say, seems like you are having a hard time. It has to be so difficult to be where you are.

Also appreciating every little thing. If he comes home from work, takes garbage out, kisses ya when he leaves or arrives....Its ok to be grateful for what he does give.

A's are kids I believe, all their lives. they have so many isms to contend with. So to keep it simple and light means a lot. I know I hated it when anyone was mad at me or cold or if they were not feeling well. I blamed me. HE is surely blaming himself for something. Just letting him know he is not alone would be nice.

we all have things that make us nuts in our personal life. I told S I just need to hear everything is going to be ok. Maybe he needs to hear that too.You have needs too. could say hon would you mind.......its ok if you choose not to.

definitely prayers for you and yours, debilyn

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Prayers Paula

PP · ~*Service Worker*~

Debilyn, you are a lover smile I recognized this as a relapse as I was processing with a beloved program person and friend, the pain and hurt I was experiencing. I had to move through the muck so I could see more clearly what was happening. I was blindsided and wobbled for a bit. My work is to not relapse, see my life as objectively as possible and wear gratitude like a pair of tight jeans. No wonder your animals love you so much!

neshema2 · ~*Service Worker*~

PP wrote:
I would like prayers today for the strength to work my program while I watch my husband relapsing into his addictive thoughts. To my awareness, he has not picked up substances, but he has picked up the stinking thinking. He has his tools and I have mine. I know I cannot and will not do this alone....thank you all for your loving support so I don't rip him a new one.

(((((((((((((((((((((Paula))))))))))))))))))) LOADS of prayers coming your way........you can only take care of what is encircled around your feet...I know its hard, but what choice do we have....sending you prayers of strength...peace....comfort....detachment................hugsssss

neshema2 · ~*Service Worker*~

so sorry I am late seeing this...been busy all day and not on computer...........will be thinking of u and sending you thoughts of love and peace.....

Rose50 · Senior Member

My thoughts and prayers are with you , PP

((((HUGS)))

Sweet Stanley · ~*Service Worker*~

I don't write often anymore but I come here often to read and learn. I have been struggling with the same thing.... Stay strong, stick to your program, it is all we can do. Thinking of you and hoping that things work out for you...

Mari1978 · Senior Member

Prayers and
(((Paula)))
Keep on keeping on :)

PP · ~*Service Worker*~

Again, thank you for your posts, they helped me. Yesterday was kept uncluttered/quiet and today I get to start fresh; next is my morning coffee. Have a good one MIP.

Melly1248 · ~*Service Worker*~

(((Paula)))

grateful2be · ~*Service Worker*~

I really like the way you can let yesterday stay in yesterday and start the new day fresh, PP. Good program example for me.

PP · ~*Service Worker*~

(((G2B))), I would like to say that the past few days are not with me today, but I can't. I do get to see them in a different light, though and work my program in whatever increments work for me today. Thanks for your response.

grateful2be · ~*Service Worker*~

I like your honesty, too.

neshema2 · ~*Service Worker*~

PP wrote:
Again, thank you for your posts, they helped me. Yesterday was kept uncluttered/quiet and today I get to start fresh; next is my morning coffee. Have a good one MIP.

I love this....just shift that car back into first and begin again, going up the gears, lol...........BIG hugs of encouragement

Wisdom67 · Senior Member

Paula my prays are with you . You been a good friend to me and helping me threw my crap you don't know how much I appreciate it . I will had you and your family on my list . Love wisdom

Green Eyes · ~*Service Worker*~

Hi PP- sending you my support and prayers right now. One day at a time, right? And Let Go and Let God.

Hugs,

GE

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