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Good morning. Today I am going to accept what is, try my best not to judge it or make crazy attempts to control it. Just accept it. It's not the easiest thing to take the rose colored glasses off but until that happens I live in denial and lie to myself that its not really what it is. And I am not going to fight against things today, just let them happen as HP has planned for the day. In a way I am looking forward to seeing what HP has planned, and what could happen if I don't fight the plan.
OMG!! mm you found my glasses!! LOL you will come to understand that your vision is really very good with them off. You're growing and won't need them in the future anyway. Garage Sale!! (((((hugs)))))
I have finally taken off those rose colored glasses. The problem is they still are stuck in a drawer instead of in the garage sale. But like Betty says the tools of Al-anon will keep you facing the reality so that someday you can have joy and peace no matter what is going on.
We didn't cause it, we can't control it, and surely can't cure it. This disease is way stronger than we could ever be.
We love you here and we don't want you to be alone so keep coming back my friend.... Hugs
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Lord, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth
Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your silence.
Rose tinted glasses, I thought these were my friend for many years. They were so affective at sweeping facts and painful realities away under the carpet, to be dealt with and tidied another day. Now and again they fell off and I could see the cold hard truth but I just picked them up and put them back on and I was much more comfortable. Now they are gone and I dont want them anymore and its not as hard as I thought it would be to see the world as it truly is, in fact I am actively searching out my truth. The tools of my program allow me to face it and I want it all fast but its not happened that way. Realisations have been coming for about 18 months now and I can deal with them, Im strong enough, I can actually cope with the truth. Thanks for sharing.x
I struggled a little with this earlier today but so far doing much better than normal with accepting what is at face value and not fighting it, my own feelings included. Thank you for all the love and support here. Today has been peaceful.
Acceptance is the key. Most of the time I wanted my 'rose tinted spectacles' - So I could deceive myself into thinking "if I can't see it then its not happening, if I ignore it 'It' will go away.
It never did and when the crutch came I was angry, resentful and hurt.
Those spectacles were my worst enemy, until I took them off I could never gain acceptance but I needed a lot of help to take them off and that help came from the fellowship, slowly I came to see more clearly, to understand that if I truly wanted Serenity I had to gain Acceptance and this could only happen when I acknowledged the world and the people in it as they are and not as I wanted them to be. Sometimes I admit I put them on again, it never helps and my dependance on them is slowly decreasing, when I see things for what they are I can be free of the past and make progress.
