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angellerose


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Thank you to those who responded to my question. I really appreciate everything that you have said, and am taking it and applying it to my life. It really means a whole lot to me. I was able to resonate with a lot of the things that were shared. I have attended one alanon meeting, I was feeling quite desperate and it was the only meeting close to me and available that night. I was by far the youngest in the room but it didn't matter too much because I related to a lot of the things shared, and I heard some fantastic things to apply to my life. I'm going to attend alateen this week, though, and I'm really excited!

One thing that someone commented on my post was to have high hopes, and low expectations. I should've really listened to this one, because, my father has been kicked out the rehab he was in. He was only there for two days, but was making calls and tried contacting me. I answered his call, and he said that he was going to get better for himself. That he was going to become the man that God has wanted him to be. He tells me that one day, and then is kicked out the next...I feel like I'm talking to two completely different people sometimes. I'm so disappointed, because I really wish that he would have just followed the rules, then things would have been much more simpler...but maybe he isn't ready for recovery yet, maybe he hasn't hit his rock bottom. I'm not sure if things can get worse, so I guess they can only get better, right? But I have another question: I have two 11 year old brothers (twins) who have been really affected by all of this. I love them more than anything and hate to see them hurting. I can remember being their age and not understanding my father's illness. So is there any way that I can help them? Are they too young to attend alateen? They're pretty mature for their age. They have spoken to their school's counselor but I don't think that the counselor is the best resource for them to have. 

Also any recommendations for books for them or for me? Thanks a ton! 



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Hello Angellerose 
I am so sorry to read of the disappointment with the rehab.  Alcoholism is a powerful,  baffling  insidious   disease  over which we are powerless.  It is so important  that you reached out here and have attended alanon meetings.  You are correct there is help  and hope available at the face to face meetings and  I  believe your brothers will benefit from attending
The alateen literature should be available at the alateen  meeting  or you can order from the alanon web site
below  Here is a sample.


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Members are encouraged to read Al-Anon and Alateen Conference Approved Literature and materials, including our Alateen Talk newsletter. Written from members' personal sharing's, these recovery tools can help young people deal with their problems.

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-- Edited by hotrod on Tuesday 5th of November 2013 09:41:38 AM

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Hi! Thanks for the update. I am glad you will be attending Alateen. Your brothers can go, too, with Mom's permission. The three of you could be learning the program together. That would be a big help to all of you.

It does feel like we're talking to two different people. In some ways, we are. The real person underneath the disease and the person affected by the disease. Al-Anon helps us learn the difference between the two and how to deal with that, too. Your Dad does want to get better. The disease doesn't want that for him. The more we attend meetings, listen to others, practice the Steps and the Slogans, the less able that disease is to trip us up, confuse us, derail us.

Keep coming back, Angellrose. Glad to see you here again.

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